Commonwealth of Virginia v.
Sentencing Date: October 2, 2009
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Honorable Judge,
This is a letter we write with a heavy heart. We were lucky and grateful that no physically harmed was done, but the emotional repercussions will be imprinted on our daughter for the rest of her life. The incident of February, 2009, has affected our daughter, so much that the damage will be for a very, very long time.
Since the abused committed by XXXX, our daughter has not been able to recover. She feels that whatever happened is her fault and has not been able to get over the hurt that her “teacher” caused her, she loved him and trusted him very much, and he broke that trust in the foulest way possible.
XXXX had gained our trust and friendship by helping our daughter with her school troubles. Troubles that had been caused by somebody else; this other man, who was convicted of indecent exposure, caused our daughter to not sleep in her own room, not play outside and had affected her school grades. When the next school year started we informed the defendant of the reason why she had a hard time in school the previous year, and he helped her overcome this problems and be a much better student. He offer to tutor her to help her more and gained hers and our trust in the process, we believed him when he told us that he cared for her as one of his own kids, and he broke that trust with an act that has affected the life of our 10 years old girl for the rest of her life.
Since the incident, BBB has a hard time sleeping, eating and worries that because of what happened, her friends will not accept her anymore her sunny self has been down too. Sometimes she looks and sounds as normal as ever, other days she will not talk, eat and her mood would be so bad that it is hard to be around her. Also, because this incident occurred in our house, she has a hard time going anywhere close to where it happen, we cannot afford to move to a new house and it is heartbroken to see that she has a hard time been in our own house the one place where she should feel safe and at peace. All the security and safety that she felt in our own home has been stripped from her.
Our family has been devastated by this actions, the mother has not been able to get over the fact that a person we trusted so much would do something so hurtful and cost her little girl the worst nightmare a child could ever have, and the worse kind to be given to a parent. He has taken our little girl innocence and trust, how will she ever recover from this? She cannot stop thinking and blaming herself for what happen.
We are very concern since she is not eating; this could bring eating disorder problems which we are trying so hard to work on. She also has so many emotional issues that the therapist is working on, but the damage is done and the recovery process will be long and not warranty to be 100%, but we our love and support we will do the best we can for BBBB.
As a family we have not been able to recover either. Our teenage daughter, SSSS, has been looking over her shoulder with more caution than ever now, she has stop planning fun trips during the summer, so she can stay with her sister and protect her. She texts and calls her sister every hour when she is playing with her friends to make sure that nothing happens to her. She has taking the responsibility of her sister’s safe on her shoulder something that no 15 years old should do. We the parents cannot sleep at night it breaks our hearts to see that our baby girl is really suffering and has lost her innocence in the worst way possible and that we cannot help her anymore than we already are.
We are blessed to have a wonderful and loving daughter who is very good and has sensible and noble feelings towards other people. But we can tell how much she is hurting and how much it has affected her life and who knows if she will be able to trust people again.
I would like to quote the words that she wrote to her Daddy on his Father’s Day card: "DEAR DADDY, THIS PICTURE IS TO SHOW YOU HOW MUCH I LOVE YOU. I KNOW I'M YOUR BABY GIRL AND MY LIFE HAS BEEN VERY DIFFICULT LATELY AND MY LIFE WILL NEVER BE THE SAME. I AM NOT A LITTLE GIRL YOU KNOW, BUT WITH YOU WILL BE BETTER, YOU ARE THE ONE WHO MAKE MY HEART WHOLE. LOVE BBBB.
It is very hard for a parent to read these words; it broke our hearts to read those words and know how much this has affected her life and that she knows it has affected her for the rest of her life that she does not cosider herself a little girl anymore, she is only 10 years old.
Our hope is that you would consider how much XXXX actions has forever affected her young life, the security he has taken from her, and all of us for that matter, even from our own home. Even when no physical harm was done, the emotional and mental harmed will be there for many, many years if not forever. Please, keep him locked away for a very, very long time.
Sincerely,
Posted on Jul 22, 2009, 1:45 PM from IP address 20.137.18.52
