I need help!!!! It has been 3yrs since I found out about my daughter's abuse by my (then) husband, her daddy, she was only 7 when I found out. It took 2 years to go to trial, and he was found guilty and sentenced to 45 years. While it seems like a perfect ending, it is not. Most days are good, but then I get in a funk, and it can last for a week or two. I am in one of those moods, where I can hardly function, and I feel like I am always crying. This mood started with a conversation with my daughter, where she told me she misses her daddy. Those words stung, and my heart fell. I wanted to shake her and yell, do you remember what he did?!?!? but as much as I hate that man, I just said, "I know." It is so hard for me, because I have no one to talk to. Its hard to talk to my family, they get uncomfortable, and they dont realize sometimes I just want to rant and rave, or just have a shoulder to cry on. I dont have many friends, and none that i am comfortable disclosing this with, which is what brought me to this site, I was looking for a support group to join so I can talk with people who know and understand how I am feeling.
I do have a question in all this!! How do you deal with a child who misses her abuser?? I realize she is young, and doesn't quite understand it all right now, but he has been out of our life for over 3 years now. I am having so much trouble understanding and figuring out how to deal with it. I dont know what to say to her. She incorporates "daddy" into so many things. For example, she recently made a note for her door that said "no boys allowed, except for dad." I threw it away when she was sleeping. I just dont know how to deal. I dont want to tell her that she is wrong for feeling this way, he is her father, even though he's a @#%!!!
Posted on Jul 23, 2009, 11:13 PM from IP address 68.91.144.76
