My daughter was molested by her father when she was very young. We are divorced now, and she disclosed this info two years into therapy after that. We reported it, and the police said to stay quiet so that they could build a case against him. The prob is he is very smart and it has been difficult to catch him (he likes to peruse nonphotograph literature of child porn online) at something illegal. My son (13) still will visit his dad, although he knows about the molestation he doesn't seem to understand what that means and they have talked (his sister and him) about whether she is okay with him still maintaining a relationship. We use to celebrate holidays and bdays as a complete family until this all came out, and I get angry emails from him complaining that I have turned her against him and I don't follow the original parenting plan (made before all this came out). This accusations don't come often, but when they do I fall apart inside. I want to tell him why she won't see him, but I can't. I have sole custody and I fought for that during the original divorce proceedings. He knows I know about his heightened interest in porn and that he has websites about child porn (no photos or he would be in jail right now, believe me) and that because of that I insisted on sole custody. But he doesn't know we know and she remembers etc. She is doing well, very long haul of therapy, talking, etc but she is pretty amazing teen. I
Posted on Aug 31, 2009, 2:57 PM from IP address 209.216.181.105
