I would be honest with him, that you love him and miss him, but you are conflicted because of what he has done and in a way you don't want to see him, but you will try to work through it as best you can. I would let him know that his sister is fine with him being there, and that is why he is there. You want to rebuild the family bonds that have been strained by his actions but it's not easy and it's going to take time. I think being willing to make the effort says a lot, and hopefully your son will see it that way as well.
I know how hard this is for you, but I think it's a big step towards healing your family and I commend you for being able to take it. I think you need to take your cues from your daughter and since she's okay with him being there, try to build on that. As we've all said, this is the hardest thing we've ever had to deal with as parents and there is no set way to handle it.
KL
Posted on Sep 27, 2009, 5:22 PM from IP address 68.63.139.188
