right on dee, i agree. routine is great but be aware of triggers. some of the routines i had in place in the home allowed for the abuse to happen. my S needed change in some of them to feel safe. just listen with love. my S did not leave my side and thats what she needed. i also kept the communication very open. i encouraged her to ask questions and that she could to talk with me about anything. she had been holding in so much for so long that she had so much to share. most was very difficult to hear but her releif after was worth it. i learned what she needed by her talking, and she got her voice back!! today is the one year mark of the disclousure and now we talk about her abuse very openly. it is a very long road!!!!!! your discription of a mack truck is perfect. today i still feel that way. i have to keep reminding myself that it is a slow process. the therapist was also key, my S had a real healthy connection with hers and she is doing fantastic.
Posted on Oct 6, 2009, 12:41 PM from IP address 68.55.213.157
