Anniversary dates are tough. You may not quite be ready for Dee's idea, but I'll share with you a story I heard at OA(Overeaters Anonymous). One woman said that on the anniversary of her husband's death every year, she would plan an entire day's eating binge to get through. After being in OA for a while, the date was rolling around, and she was determined to change how she coped. So she carefully planned a day with friends around her, doing things she would enjoy, that didn't involve eating. And she was sucessful! The thing about this woman, and Dee, is that they both acknowledge the huge power that anniversary dates can have. I wonder what others on the board do?? Maybe we can start a string asking people.
Try to take comfort in the fact that your kids all still speak to each other, and express love for each other. That HAS to mean that there was a great base there - a base you and DH laid for them.
Love and Hugs,
CG
Posted on Oct 19, 2009, 3:13 PM from IP address 65.43.218.125
