I'm sorry you are here too. I'm so glad your were able to get your child away from him. I'm not sure why your state hasn't prosucuted him yet?, it was about 6+ mos. for mine. I does take the state some time for discovery...
The more I press court action, the more he gets creepy, going to her school etc, sending manupilating messages to me and even her via e-mail and phone. So I get scared. We went thru this last year; and from my state via DHS & also DA victims assistance, they said I could not get a restaining order since he wasn't being threating...only family court. When I orginally got a restraining order back 10 yrs ago, he was coming around more; and after him being in prison he has more people in low places....watching my every move...I'm not sure what is worse, before prison or after...honesly after is even worse, cuz' they are out for revenge...and it's typical for a chi-mo to blame the mother! of course during his years in prison..it was peace. I should have taken action while he was in. I was/am stupid...now he is living w/new kids & has that women muniplated..& now she tries to get in the middle w/out a clue... it's such a long story.
I want to go to court; but scared, plus from my attorney (thru legal assistance, far from free tho), will costs thousands of $'s which I don't have. I did go through legal assistance...but still cost alot of money... how did you go thru 6 mos. of hearings? Where you blessed w/money, or got help from another source? Was that just thru mediation, attornies or thru a court/judge? I feel stuck and frustrated w/the whole system. But I realize after 2 years of MORE HELL from him; I have to get someway to gain the strength for her...it's a long story...but I know we have gone thru nearly 10 yrs of hell, enough is enough. I'm so thankful for this site...to know I'm not alone....2 years ago when he got out, I could find nothing, for parents...I prayed and prayed...and finally...God Bless you all...we shall overcome and our children will be protected!
Sorry...I'm rambling, but hey...that's what what we do...when we have these down times right?
I appreciate so much your kind words, and again sorry you are here also...Praying for all of us...thank you again...! God Bless You and your continued recovery...! Yes, I would love to exchange e-mails not sure how to do it, I'm scared even writing on here? Again, thankful you have your daughter safe...!
Posted on Nov 3, 2009, 10:39 PM from IP address 207.200.116.135
