I'm relieved to see a forum to talk about this. My story is too long to get in to right now, or ever, short of writing/selling a scathing tell-all. But, my daughter (turning 7 next month) was sexually abused by her biological father when he had his overnight visitations with her. My current husband and I knew all along and filed numerous reports and custody suits. Only recently have we finally seen progress. It's been a hellacious journey, and has strained all 3 of us to no end. I have full custody of her and DSS is investigating for real this time, but it took hell to get here. She was also groped by a creep in a grocery store too, which was caught on tape and the guy was arrested.
Anyway, despite medication and in-home therapy, my daughter has nightly tantrums that are horrendous. She goes through phases where she is so disrespectful and venomous towards us. Does anyone else experience this with the younger kids? I mean, I expected it when she was a teenager, but not every year of her life! The tantrums have been frequent since she was 2 (post-divorce...) but lately more violent. She was just discharged from the children's psychiatric inpatient. They will be starting her on Trauma-Focused therapy soon. It's so hard to help her when she is throwing things at me, biting me, kicking, and taking away the precious few hours we get together in a day. It feels like her dad abusing me all over again.
Posted on Mar 19, 2012, 3:43 PM from IP address 184.108.40.206