I am the mom of a sexually abused girl (her father is the perp). She is a teen; the abuse occurred when she was younger. I believe it went on for years. She is very mentally ill now. She did not disclose the abuse to anyone until this past fall. The SOB and I have been divorced for many years. She was 4 when we separated but she may have been a victim as young as two.
The police began the investigation four months ago. His computer was sent to the FBI and I believe there was more electronic equipment seized recently. The last I heard (about 40 days ago) charges were going to be filed very soon. My definition of "very soon" is probably different than government agencies :/
I hate this process; the not-knowing. What I really hate is what our lives look like today. My poor daughter is a mess and requires supervision almost constantly because of suicide attempts. She doesn't make any threats before she attempts...just gets up in the middle of the night and does it on the sly. So I have to sleep with her. She is in counseling a few times a week for a few hours each session. Her last hospitalization was 20 days. She refuses to do anything...at all. I am so tired I can't see straight and I feel like I'm going to collapse.
I had to leave my job and move in with a family member, who is supporting us. I feel so hopeless right now. Normally, I'm a pretty happy person but I'm drained and empty today.
It's hard to keep up friendships because I don't have anything to say and it's hard for me to feel happy and enthusiastic for the good things going on in others lives; maybe I'm envious? What I find difficult is doing something fun, even seeing a movie, and then returning to the reality of our situation.
There is more about our current situation but I don't want to go on and on. This whole thing started 16 months ago...but came to a head in Dec.
I do see a counselor every week and have for some time. I'm having a bad day and feeling so hopeless.
Posted on Apr 13, 2012, 8:33 PM from IP address 220.127.116.11