I realize it is so much easier said than done, and so much easier to tell someone else rather than yourself, but....... it isn't your fault! You have NO blame in this! Are you protecting your daughter now? From the time she disclosed to you? Or course your are! So you have NOT failed her. This is an absolutely horrible experience.... a life changing event.... but it is neither your fault, nor her fault. The fault lies solely on the shoulders of "Grampa"
My daughter just disclosed to me on April 25th that her "Dad" has been touching her, molesting her, so on for almost 4 years!!! I know the feelings you are feeling in regards to failing your daughter. This is my husband! A man who has been my children's Dad for over a decade! And, the biological father to 2 of my children. But, it isn't my fault. It isn't your fault. It is only the fault of the sick individual that thinks "sex" when they see a young girl. Allow yourself to grieve, but don't allow yourself to take on any of the blame! We're here for you. Praying for you and your daughter.
Posted on May 15, 2012, 10:22 AM from IP address 18.104.22.168