You express yourself well and I understand your need to connect with people who have had similar life experiences. Bandmom put it well, she is in a different place now and it's nice to know that one can get there after going through the difficulties you and others and myself have been through. Speaking from experience, you may have even a rockier road ahead with your daughter's behaviour. I did, once mine disclosed. By then, she was into drugs and she has never, to my mind, been the same sweet person since. She married a chap who has a chip on his shoulder and together they have two lovely daughters, the older one however, a carbon copy of her father...extremely bright but puts other kids down, as he can. Mostly now it's my daughter who is being put down, or was, when I saw them 2 years ago. I've lost track of time since she cut off her connection with me. Hard to believe that this can happen but the strain of our relationship was demeaning to me from her late teens onward. Although I miss my grandchildren and my daughter, I feel that I have a more honest relationship with myself now in not accepting what felt like patronizing and disrespectful behaviour towards me. You may find tough love helpful if there is such a thing out where you live. If not, there are books. These kids can go through a lot of acting out growing up after sexual abuse in their young lives.
Posted on Jun 5, 2012, 8:49 PM from IP address 126.96.36.199