I am expecting things will only go downhill with my daughter's behaviors for a while to come. I just guess I was expecting it to be more "connected" to the abuse... ie: sexual behaviors, depression, outbursts, maybe even alcohol, smoking, etc.
Fortunately, we have a support here that helps us work through this together, to the extent that we can or are allowed to. Right now, there is little I can ask her until after the case is over. But, she is welcome to share anything with me. Problem is, she is still so stuck in trying to protect me, that she doesn't. Seems like a crappy cycle for us to be in!
I would say that we have always been exceptionally close, except... if we had been, wouldn't she have told me sooner about what my husband was doing? That is where I feel at my worst. The fact that she felt, for whatever reason, that she couldn't tell me right away.
I find it refreshing to hear from others that are further along in the process. It DOES give me hope. It gives me a perspective of what I can possibly be facing. And, maybe, how I can make it even better for my family to heal as a unit.
My heart aches for you though, BJR, and the way things ended up turning out for you. I know you are in a much healthier place, but I also realize it doesn't come without it's pains of loss and grief.
Thank you for always encouraging me!
Posted on Jun 6, 2012, 11:59 AM from IP address 126.96.36.199