It has been 7 months since my daughter disclosed that her older brother raped and molested her when she was 4 and he was 12. This happened 14 years ago. We felt it necessary to tell my brother and his family as well as my parents because our son visited them and acts like he has done nothing wrong.
It was easier than I thought it would be. I just couldn't listen to my mother go on and on about how wonderful our son is. My mother agreed to take down pictures of him and to not talk about him when we visit with our daughter in a few weeks.
My brother was sexually abused by the same relative that I was when we were kids so I got a lot of support for us and our daughter from him. It still just boggles my mind that I was abused as child and then my poor baby was abused BY MY OWN SON!! A warning to all of you-I told my son never to touch his sisters in this way;I thought I had done everything to keep my children safe (including my abuser son) and it happened anyway! Please be so careful with your children-if this could happen to us, it could happen to anybody. How will I ever be able to forgive myself for not keeping her safe?!
Our daughter has become quite angry towards my husband and I in the last week and I realize that it is normal. She says she kind of doesn't trust us because of what happened. She is right- we were responsible for keeping her safe and we didn't. I know and understand these feelings because I felt this way towards my parents and I still kind of do. Everyday I pray for healing for my daughter. I pray that she can find happiness and peace. I won't be okay until she is.
Posted on Aug 2, 2012, 1:26 PM from IP address 126.96.36.199