Ok, I don't know what to say but, HELP!
I love being nude, It almoast makes me fell closer to God kinda, but,(no pun intended) I am surrounded by almost anti-naturists. What i mean is, My mom and girlfriend know about it but ar'nt really overly excited. My girlfriend, she's a bit more receptive, and my mom its an "eh," with her. My dad, I havent talked to yet, but I wil kinda soon as soon as i can get some advice. I need to know a good not argument, but a good way to convince, if you will say, that nudity and social nudity are not wrong just a different way of life sort-of-speak. Any help is greatly appreciated. Thanks! God Bless!

You can pretty much read the stuff on Boyd's site here and determine that nudity is not wrong Biblically. What worries wives and other friends oftentimes is other people's views and what they might or might not do when confronted with a nude person.

So, you need to first convince your fiance that the nudity isn't wrong. Next you have to work out ways for her to live with it.

It won't be easy. The devil has really tied us up in knots over the whole issue. He must love it: smear the greatest of God's creation, His own image. Make it into something dirty.

Ralph

Here's a classic list that supports the practice of social nudity. You ought to be able to find some thoughts here that you can use, and you—and those to whom you speak—will be surprised at the people quoted here.

http://naturist.com/resources/205_001.htm

First of all, we are all surrounded by non-naturists in some form or another. First of all, your age. Second, is this your "permanent" girlfriend. (Are you two really stuck on each other, or could the relationship get fickle over any old thing, naturism or not and end it?)

Your mother is an "eh", and may I translate, "So what, I really don't care, just keep it out of my face".

They may not be "overly excited" meaning either "I don't care but don't get me involved") or it may mean "Don't you even DARE to THINK about it!!!!"

Maybe you need to experiment more, (be nude anyway) or do some more research here and other places linked from here. You may also want to visit John Kunderts site http://www.flf.com

Another question: are they "religiously" against it, or are the "politically/socially" against it? Makes a big difference. You can have laws that say it's OK to be nude, but will still offend people who are religiously against it.

That makes our answer a little more direct.

Boyd Allen

Everyone's situation is different, so I don't presume to tell anyone else how they should go about telling those who are important to them. However, a mark of adultness is the ability to choose our own course without be overly restricted from reasonable, responsible choices by concern about what others may think.

My wife and I maintain our participation in naturism as a private matter, but it's not a secret. We don't discuss it in the world at large, because we do have concerns that it could create hassles that we simply don't want to be bothered with.

However, all of our family knows that we never wear clothing to swim or soak at home, and they know that we go to places where we are socially nude. I don't think we have any close friends who don't know.

How many in that circle understand our doing of it? Probably zero. How many alienated or disturbed relationships have resulted from our letting our inner circle know? Zero for sure. Not one.

My guess is that this has something to do with the fact that we didn't do it until we were certain within ourselves that it was OK for us as Christians committed to live by high moral standards. Therefore we don't subtly communicate that there might be something wrong with it, or that are looking for their expressions of approval or disapproval. That does make a difference in how people respond.

But everyone's circle of family and friends is different. If you're not sure in yourself, or if yours is a family that feels invited to tell you how to live, then indeed it could bring problems.

Good wishes to you.

I beleive what is written (copied from above)"My guess is that this has something to do with the fact that we didn't do it until we were certain within ourselves that it was OK for us as Christians committed to live by high moral standards. Therefore we don't subtly communicate that there might be something wrong with it, or that are looking for their expressions of approval or disapproval. That does make a difference in how people respond." is important in our lives to live with a clear mind and spirit.

That doesn't mean that we sin with a clear mind, thinking that if it's OK with us,then it must be OK with God. We have to be careful thinking this way. First of all, we teach people to go back to the bible, when in fact, we must teach people to go back to the author of the bible, Jesus Christ (the Word).

Once we realize who and what Jesus realy is, fully God when and while fully man (with human physical characteristics). He is perfect, righteous, and we need only His approveal. One of his commands is to love one another, in fact, that is his only real command, second only to Love God with all your heart, mind and soul or being.

We love our neighbors by respecting them, but we also love them by being honest with them, not being afraid of the truth or speaking the truth. We don't go around telling everyone about everything in our lives,like our finances or personal views on everything. But we don't need to be afraid to be honest enough to admit our frailties or our stregnths. After all, we need to be available to serve and they need to know where and when they can count on us.

Naturism is a part of our character, our life, and it tells others we are not afraid of being ourselves. It also tells us what kind of friends we have, where we need to work on our friendship, and what is important. Some friends are needy and naturism will only complicate their lives. Or it may help them.

I pushed the limits at my neighborhood that I lived in until recently. I went nude in my yard to the point where I was mowing my front yard up to and including next to the road. But I was careful of the time of day. If kids were around too much, I refrained....some. But when they called the police a couple of times and sent a public letter (to the community) of my naturism and that they won't have it anymore, then I had to stop. I eventually moved out, but I was very happy there for a while.

But I began to realize how weak my neighbors were and that they were depending on a Home Owners Association to fulfill their need to socialize. The ones that socialized without the need had no problems with my naturism. One even came over while I was nude and we were in the front yard while I was nude. We are still friends today.

Notice what kind of friends you have, get to know them, find out their needs, fulfill them if you can. (Don't destroy yourself in the process, some can never stop being needy).

Listen to them, understand them, and be yourself. See if they accept you as a person. If not, then naturism may be the catalyst that would either encourage friendship or cut it off all together. There are only 650 million people in the U.S. I'm sure you can find a few friends who will understand.

Family is a different story. Your're stuck with them! Just be yourself, understand them, and let God handle the rest.

Stay with us here, you know you have us anyway.

Boyd Allen