New Christian female seeks advice friendship in Central Florida
January 22 2004 at 7:17 PM
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Hi
My name is Lois and Iam 38 yrs old single female. I am a little lady in height and use a wheelchair. Iam very independent. I moved to Melbourne Florida a year ago. I have always desired to go to a nude beach but never did because sand doesn't mix with a wheelchair. After researching Florida's fine clubs/resorts I was longing to go there. This last Christmas I was undecided about my desire to be nude, so I typed in Christian Nudity in the search engine. I was surprised what came up. I wasn't looking to see other Christian nudist. I thought I had an underline problem to be nude and that it was immoral. I have since read all the information and tried to met other Christian nudist in my area. Its very hard. I am finding more male nudist than I need to at this time.
Last night my roommate from my Church confronted me on my new interest in to Christian Nudity. She is against Nudity all together and compares it to playboy. She will not read any information that I have read. She see's nudity as a sin and that satan is controling my mind. She says that if I continue to read and practice nudity of any kind, she will have to leave. I owe the house and rent her 2 rooms and a bathroom. After the talk I felt very little within and didn't know about myself.
I grew up in a christian home where the boys used the back bathroom, no talking about sex and so on. My mom was a rag aholic about God's laws. I didn't even know what a circumsized male was until the boys in high school was talking about it. Yet, I was even molested by my own brother and to scared to tell a soul. I even turned anyway as believing in God because of all my shame and guilt.
Are there any ladies out there that can share with me as well? Or advise me?
As you have found out the hard way, single male 'nudists' or 'naturists' far outnumber single Ladies. Unfortunately, too many of them have something else on their minds.
1. Re-read Boyd's post today. DO NOT EVER use your given name. DO NOT EVER give out your home City; 'Central Florida' is plenty. It doesn't take much for a predator to figure out where you are, etc. As I told Jen, you as a small person confined to a W/C would make perfect, helpless victim.
2. Using Yahoo is a very good idea. DO NOT put your initials and DOB together as your email address. See number 1 above.
3. Review my 'Rantings' and 'Ravings' to Nudelywed, Little Bear, and Muffin and her Mom about safety. Muffin and her Mom have made cetain of this. Don't put yourself where you can be seen from the outside.
3. I will leave your Spiritual concerns and advising to several Pastors who are regulars here.
4. You have had a horrific experience. While the Ladies on this BB may not suffered that experience, several are close to you in age. They should be able to help, at least to some degree. Had you posted this request in 10-03, there were basically no Ladies actively posting. Now, the LORD brought you here at the 'Right Time'.
Again, please remember that I push safety so you have the best possible chance of protecting yourself. That way, you'll be around to post and help us grow.
Yours in Christ,
KuzeN
P. S. If you do use your name on BB's, in emails, etc., either use a nickname or your 'other' given name. For example, a Lady's given names are 'Marie Cassandra'. She goes by Marie. Using Cassandra could yeild:: 'Cassie', 'Cass', 'Sandy', 'Sandie'. Then, no one will know 'Marie'.
I read Lois' posting, and thought it's about time I posted some thoughts of my own.
My name is Gwin, I am Boyd's wife. I haven't posted before because I have been a bit busy and simply do not spend much time online. I didn't want to start something I didn't have time to follow through on regularly. So if my postings are a bit sporadic be patient.
I am 43 years old and the mother of a lovely one year old daughter. I, too am a person of short stature, and proud of it. I was raised by a parent who had a very relaxed attatude towards the human body. Nudity was neither discouraged nor incouraged. I knew what a male body looked like by the time I was in grade school. My mother taught both me and my younger brother about correct anatomy and body function for both sexes. She also taught us that the mind was in control of the body, and unlike animals we did not HAVE to give into sexual urges prompted by horomones and visual stimuli. In others words just looking at the naked body should not cause arousal. And if for whatever reason, you were to become aroused then you had a responsiblity to use the mind God gave you to control your actions.
No one was ashamed or startled if we saw each other nude going or coming from the bath. We were taught that society perfered we wear clothing in public places, but not that our bodies were something of which we should be ashamed. I grew up with a very strong sense of self-respect and positive body image.
By the time I was in Jr. High I was drawing nudes as practice for my art skills. Showering after gym was not the mildly tramatic experience for me that it seemed to be for some of my friends. And I never ceased to be surprised by the over excitability of my peers when it came to nudity (on TV/ Movies or in magazines etc...). They seemed so silly and out of control when they came across nudity. I never undersood thier facination with it. It was like the proverbial "forbidden fruit" to them, and they couldn't resist a taste. Looking back I can see how my mother's teachings gave me the tools to remain a virgin until my wedding to Boyd at the age of 28. I didn't feel the need to explore my sexuality as a teen or as a young adult. There was no "big mystery" to explore. I knew I had complete control of my body, and treasured it enough to treat it with respect, and demand that everyone (particularly boys) do the same.
I can't say that I really thought much about whether there was anything such as a "nude lifestyle" until Boyd broughtit to my attention. Until then I just took nudity where I found it, and didn't go out of my way looking for the opportunity to be nude. When Boyd wanted me to go to a club, I went.
Since coming in contact with organized christian naturism I have had much fun relaxing with others who have learned that it is only natural to be nude. I still don't go out of my way to be either dressed or nude (some naturist seem overly pre-occupied with allways being nude) I go with the flow of those around me. I do plan to raise my children with a proper understanding of nudity and allowing them to decide whether of not to activily participate in this lifeslyle.
Lois, don't let others presure you to do or not to do anyting. My experience is that people who try to force their views on others are doing so because they fear someting. Truth is not based in fear. Do the research for yourself. If you find that the Bible truly does teach that nudity is sin, then follow your heart. I personally have found much teaching against improper sexual relations, but none aginst nudity. The mind controls the body and it can sin regardless of what the body has on or does not have on.
I will leave you some food for thought. If being nude causes people to sin sexually then .....
Why do most illicite affairs start when people meet (fully clothed) in normal social occassions?
Why does the bra which is susposed to keep us modest "lift and separate" to give us that forever young figure?
Why do we never read of women being attacked and raped by naked men? (Reports seem to indicate that in most cases both victim and assulant started out fully clothed)
Why does the Bible say that "If a man looks at a woman and lust in his heart, it is sin" (it doesn't say "looks at a nude womean")?
Let me know if you want to write to me personally, but you can write on this board as well.
Thank you for taking the first step to share your concerns and questions. Obviously there are many issues in your life that are in need of attention. You have come to a caring place where your struggle is taken seriously by your Christian brothers and sisters who post here.
You specifically asked for advice from other women, so I'm going to respect that and not offer any. But please: stay here and keep sharing with us. We care.
My reasons for a female advise is because I have a female renter and that I see more men on nude message broad and chatroom. I was beginning to think that Nude female are to be seen and not heard.???
