Like KuzeN and so many of you have suggested we are moving ahead. Both my wife and I have enjoyed several delightful evening nude swims after the boys are off to sleep and it is dark. First time wwe went in with our suit on and came out sans suits - now we skip that step and go directly nude - for us a significant step. "Kathy" was on to something very enjoyable. I have also taken a few nude dips and spalsh times with the boys when I come home at night. I think Saturday my wife will try topfree. We have invited "Kathy" over for dinner with us on Sunday after church. Thanks again to all. Perplexed (but not nearly so much so)
It would be a good chance to discuss what has transpired, but do it dressed unless it includes her parent(s). You have had a wonderful eye opening week. Kathy put herself at risk as a teenager with your minor boys but you would be more at risk as adults and Kathy.
We have another question and I hope you don't mind. Since the guys (ages 4 and 7) have been nude more this past week then ever in their lives my wife has noticed that they both seem to get woodies. I said I thought it was normal. She asked did I get woodies at that age - well I can't remember. I am an only child and she has two sisters so we have no one to compare with. They were probably getting them and we just never saw them. I don't think it is "sexual" but more a physical reaction - one that is normal, and probably like the ones teens and adults get they are pleasurable, but I don't know for sure. Any help would be appreciated.
It probably is true that they were getting them before, but they were hidden from view. Now it's out in the open air for everyone to see. It's also possible that the bouncing that occurs when naked little boys run around causes it to happen a bit more often.
It's natural and involuntary. Should they have questions about it, be calm and reassuring. Otherwise just relax in the knowledge that these things come and go.
It is normal for boys of all ages to have erections (ultrasounds have detected infants with erections); we are not sure exactly why this happens (full bladder, giggling or prep of muscles for the future, etc). As a PsyD I can assure you that this is natural and to be expected (fyi young girls secrete lubricant). You have become aware of what has been happening all along - just now you get to see it. Relax and know that they are normal.
My young teen daughter ("Nikki") and I have just become acquainted with naturism through this site and have found it most helpful - so please "stay tuned" and feel welcome to share your experiences and ask your questions (that is how we all learn). On Sunday Nikki and I are off for a week of CO R&R - her graduation gift (8th grade)...it will be tough (the sacrifices we parents make for our children), but someonme has to go with her! I am very proud of her. Sherri
Sherri, A little Fruedian slip perhaps? The inserting of "ME" in someone. Hope you both have a great time, and I don't blame you someonme has got to do it. Bearone
Wow....I had to go back and see Bareall post. It would seem that we are all one big happy nude family. Plus, this <N>< family keeps on getting larger. I hope kathy joins us soon....
I just read her post just before your post, and funny thing is, I did not notice that "slip" until you mentioned it.
I am very good about catching spelling mistakes, yet I missed that one! I knew she was talking about herself, even though "me" was missed consciously (had to look that word up to spell it right) and the idea was picked up subconsciously.
Maybe that is what clothing does to us as well (trying to make a naturist lesson out of this). Consciously, we see the clothing, but subconsciously, we see what it is trying to conceal, and we focus on the fact that we are all trying to hide something, but don't know what. I have heard of people (pastors have done this) actually saying that men should not wear beards because it looks like they are trying to hide something. (Did Jesus wear a beard as all men of his day did? Was he hiding something?) The same people who insist that beards are hiding something, will also insist that you wear clothing.
I saw "someonme" the first time, thought it was cute, never thought it was either a typo or freudian. So there!
Bareall, I think the journey that you and your daughter are taking together is wonderful. Enjoy your CO vacation together. How can you not?
I've been impressed many times with how barriers slip away and people open up at deeper levels when the clothes come up. We are complex creatures, "fearfully and wonderfully made," and our relationship to clothing is complicated. When that's gone all sorts of wonderful things become possible. When parents and children can be comfortably nude together, it seems to open the way to so many other important communications.
So...make the most of it, and have fun in the process.
as Bareall said, it is all natural. Children that age can not think in sexual manners, so their erections are nonsexual! (I too have among others two boys of 6 and 8years old). By the way, we as male adults have learned (thaugh by whom?) that every erection has a sexual background ("you must have had some dirty phantasies!") so we assume that every creature on earth with a "woody" (animals do get them to without beeing in heat) must have something special in mind.
Our modern western "christian" societies although very restictive about the naked human body have established a way of live that is more penetrated by allusions to sexuality than every "primitive" society Africa where they are naked all their life.
You children will learn from your behavior and the way you talk or not talk about the human body and sexuality how to deal with it. For example: if you would (I am not saying you will do ) indicate to your boys that having a "woody" is something that is not very good or even bad they will develop a very poor self-esteem about this body function.
Perplexed - thanks for asking that question. I am just getting caught up on the postings here and saw this one. We have a seven year old and kind of were wondering the same thing (my husband can't remember this when he was 7) - so thanks for asking and thanks to everyone for answering! D & D
Sherri
) indicate to your boys that having a "woody" is something that is not very good or even bad they will develop a very poor self-esteem about this body function.