Well my wife did it - she went without her top in and around the pool on Saturday. Neither of the boys said a word...
As planned we had "Kathy" over to lunch after church on Sunday; however her dad "caught" me after church and spoke privately with me. Apparently she told them what happened at our house. They are "at home naturist" and have been since before "Kathy" was born - they don't think anyone in the church knows. "Kathy" has two cousins who live about 30 minutes away who are also "at home naturist". I explained that we were surprised when our guys didn't want to wear their bathing suits and as to their explanation. We talked through the issue and I am (as is my wife) comfortable, but would have preferred knowing in advance/being informed) - anyway "Kathy" joined us for lunch and I told her that her dad and I had a talk about the swim time while she was baby sitting...we talked a little bit about that but found out more about her and what a delightful young lady she is. She will baby sit again - will need to talk with her dad to make sure it is okay if she and the boys do as they did last time. What turned out to be very preplexing has really become a good experience for our family ---
This is a happy transition managed by Christian adults in a mature and caring manner. Everyone wins. Thanks for keeping us updated.
I use the word "transition" because this isn't the ending. At least it doesn't need to be. Whatever issues are preventing your entire family from enjoying the freedom and closeness that accompanies family nude times are solely adult concerns. Your boys would adjust to the nudity of their parents in seconds. Yes, they might make some small observattion or ask some question related to the changed situation, but that would be a momentary matter.
If you haven't already, check out the earlier postings that tell the story of several families here who have found a delightful closeness this way, even where teens were in the family.
Finally, whether you will eventually want to expand your experience of naturism to include others or not is a matter entirely up to you. I don't think it matters much either way. But I will say that you have discovered a wonderful asset. There are lots of us who would love to know another family in their own church that enjoys the freedom. Naturists are in thousands of churches, but because it's rarely discussed people don't find each other.
Thanks again for sharing the news, and congratulations on keeping your cool and your Christian perspective and acting accordingly.
It is inspiring to see the people come out in many places, but especially in the Christians.
Apparently, the father who came to you was rather concerned himself, hoping that it was true and you were ok with it! It could have been a disaster for his family had it been another family she baby sat for. Fortunately, God placed her in the right place at the right time! And we had the honor of witnessing this through this forum! Thank you Lord Jesus for that.
I have just recieved an email from another Christian man who found naturism, and is wondering how to express it to his family of...get this...7 children!
I won't go further into his life since he hasn't posted here, but prayers for him to talk to his wife first and that she will respond positively and join him. And they join us here so we can welcome the whole family together!
Praise God for all His blessings and may he bless you all,
You may have been perplexed when you first came here. You have certainly moved forward at a rapid rate. The Missus has taken that 'brave first step' of going topless. You and the little guys seem quite secure in being suitless.
It's interesting that Kathy has a couple of cousins who are at home naturists. Do you have any idea if they are 2 boys or 2 girls or 1 of each?? Are they siblings or cousins to each other, also?? Also, what are their ages in comparion to Kathy??
Suggestion, since you and the Missus are comfortable with the situation, when you talk to Kathy's Parents, it might not hurt for her Mom to know your feelings from the two of you. You can share that Kathy is welcome 'as is'. That will help to take off any strain fdrom her parents that they might feel since she forgot to secure 'prior approval'. Translation, we won't put a full sized jump suit around her if she brings her own personalized swimming suit.
Since y'all are the only other home naturists in the Church, you might consider inviting Kathy's family for Sunday afternoon burgers and dogs over at your place. No need for either Family to pull a 'strip show'. However, I am willing to believe at least two never-were-perplexed bods as delivered with original eqipment swim suits will hit the pool. All this would do is to give both Families strenght, safety, fellowship in numbers, especially the Kids. Is Kathy an only child or are there other siblings?? If she has younger siblings, they might relate to your two.
As usual, ran on and on.
{{{The Really Never Were All That Perlexed Family}}}
KuzeN
P. S. Now, to that name change.
P. P. S. You might want to contact Luvnaturism off board through hi e-mail address. As I understand it, both of you are on the Pacific Side of the USofA. You might turn out to be reasonably close!!
P. P. P. S. You and the spouse need to go back to the postings starting in October. Read them. You will face several Family stories that are ongoing. The Parents or Teen came onto the Board with questions very similar to yours. Some have become good friends and have 'hosted teens for a day'. These heart warming stories will help to guide y'all.
Dear KuzeN, we do so appreciate you and all the fine folks here. Yes, we do need a new Internet name. "Kathy's" cousins I believe are a girl about her age and a boy a few years younger. They are siblings. My wife will speak privately with "Kathy's" mom to bring her up-to-speed. We have read some of the posts from October - very helpful and encouraging. Kathy is the only child still at home; two of her siblings are married.
1. Just remember, when you do improve the Internet nickname, advise the Old Folks, well, anyhow, at least, OLD KuzeN. Tell us who you have become. For Exammple, The Formerly Perlexed Ones are now the "Kuhl Bares" or "Bronze Bares" or.......
2. Boy, talk about your progress. What about a week ago:: eek!!! A nekkid 13 year-old girl got our little boys in the pool with their dry swim suits still in place!! Now:: both of the boys are definitely on board. You and Kathy's Father had a discussion. You've been skinny dipping. Now, the Missus will bring Kathy's Mom 'up to speed'. WOW!!! WOW!! Folks, that is truly an example of Amazing Grace!!
Again, when the time is proper, invite Kathy's Family over to really get to know each other. Just a suggestion.
I am now perplexed! (May I steal the name?) Actually not "perplexed" but VERY impressed with how things are happening here and we are witnessing this through this board! It has been very exciting 2004 which really started late '03! This board has been here since late 90's, but now has seen some tremendous growth and new families jumping on board in numbers!
And I also agree that a "woman to woman" talk with take all the fears away and a newfound freedom as well as a new friendship with emerge.
That would be "cool" for the girl to be able to come baby sit "naturally". "MOM! I'm undressed and ready to go to work!"
I know that I'm late with this... Busy!! Busy!!... but I just wanted to commend you on how very well you handled the entire situation. Way too many Christians over react when they find out that someone in their church is a nudist. Believe me, I know!!
The very fact that you first calmly, reasonably looked for an explanation instead of just flying off the handle showed Kathy's family that you were a family they might be able to open up to- and that is a HUGE comfort. Nudists are usually very frightened that they may be "found out". Most would also love to have somebody they could talk to about it.
Congratulations on being brave enough to explore this wonderful road to naturism. Even if you don't follow it any more than you already have, you have already followed it more than many Christians ever will. We need more Christians open-minded enough to do this. I don't mean open-minded as in a liberal interpretation of the Bible either. I mean open enough to realize that the Bible dosn't speak against non-sexual nudity. We need to get away from legalistic traditions and actually READ WHAT IT SAYS!!!
Anyway, enough for now. Thanks for telling us your story. Keep us posted about whatt happens next. It can only get better from here.
