I have been to a nude beach three times. Though I am somewhat shy, I found it easy to strip off my pants and I was very comfortable. The first two times I did not have any problems with being around people of the opposite sex. However, the third time, I was laying there and this beautiful, young couple walked by. After they passed the girl tossed off her tee short and was visibly delighted to continue her walk bare-breasted. Shortly they had turned around and were walking back towards me. I was so in awe of the beautiful sight that, without warning, I got extremely aroused. It just happened so suddenly. I had to put my clothes on and leave. I hope nobody saw me, but I am not sure.
I have been very ashamed and it still bothers me to this day. It was clear to me that I had to stay away from such activities. It happened over 20 years ago. I was apart from my wife that time because we were in the process of moving. I have not been back to a nude beach since, but then my wife is not a beach person so it has been a moot point.
This website has re-kindled my interest and I would try again if I had the chance. Meanwhile I always have an eye for female beauty, and it only seems to increase as I get older.
Female nudity is something exciting and perhaps sexual when you are not used to it. Three visits to a nude beach is a good beginning, but you did not give yourself enough time to overcome that inappropriate reaction. In time, your body will be trained not to see nudity alone as a sexual situation, although a young woman in her prime will always be a joy to behold.
An erection is more common in young men than middle-aged men. You might find self-control is a little easier now that 20 years have passed since your last visit to the nude beach.
And if you can persuade her to come along with you, it might be very helpful to have your wife with you for conversation, so you don't find yourself gazing at women all the time. She could read a book or listen to the radio if she doesn't care to swim or play volleyball.
I once felt an erection coming on when I was playing nude volleyball with an attractive lady on the court. I simply changed my focus to the game and the feeling passed.
On another occasion, I was nude on a dance floor, dancing with a attractive gal and when I began to feel aroused, I simply sat down for a few minutes and engaged some folks next to me in conversation. A little while later I went back to the dance and no one was offended.
Erections are a normal part of healthy manhood and I am sorry that it left you so embarassed and guilty that you stopped visiting the nude beach. It's a given that we guys will have them once in a while, it's how you behave and think afterward that determines whether you should feel ashamed.
Are you a Christian? If so, the Holy Spirit is there to help you deal with self-control.
And regular social nudity is a good way to return to a healthier attitude about the body. And I don't mean a trip to a nude beach once a year. I am talking about living your life in the nude from now on unless circumstances temporarily prevent it.
No, Dear, you dont have to stay away from the marvelous, great, exihilarating, youful experience of being nude - and not only on a lonely place, but together with others, just as they come and have their leisure time together and cultivate a conduct that makes being together possible.
But - this is not at all judging or condemning - you gave an analysis of the way to something suddenly showing your very hidden feelings, embarrassing to yourself : Stop your phantasies before that girl - in the very situation - turns around (for the next time).
Enjoy not being alone, enjoy the look at the people around you, enjoy the encounter and the feeling of consent in a crucial matter (socila nudity) - - - and you will quickly experience the self - control, yet being relaxed and without fear.
Thats all, believe me with an experience of 45 years and a decision made with prayer then, while exploring the wilderness of illegal Nude riverbanks for the first time.
It only happened once to me. A gal came out to the nude beach area and proceeded to do some stretching exercises.
I rolled over. The lady near me commented that I must have liked what I saw. I kinda grunted that I did and tried to engage her in conversation in what little English she seemed to know (It was an Italian beach). The arousal passed.
I never had a problem at a nude association event or nudist club. There were generally things to engage in or people to talk to. And no young ladies doing stretching exercises.
I wonder though how those guys go through massage classes at nudist events without getting a woody.
First of all, Welcome to not only our site and forum here, but welcome back to Naturism...Christian style.
From the experiences I had, I have never had an erection unless I put my mind to it and allow thoughts to come to mind. But even then, it was controlled in a private setting, around my wife or alone.
Putting your mind on other thoughts, talking to others, reading, walking, anything to focus your mind on other things, helps, as already mentioned above.
If your wife is OK with it, try living nude around your home a lot more. Sleeping to eating, watching tv, living daily in your home. IF you have an opportunity to go outdoors to work in your yard, (be careful here) that would help you as well.
I don't bother putting on clothing at all until I absolutely have to! It's all I can do just to put on shorts to go outside! (I shiver at the thought!)
I would advise you go to a naturist resort instead of a beach because there are more older people around your (our) age and are not "sashaying" across your path "casually tossing aside" their clothing. Usually we are a bunch of out of shape folks who either left our clothing at the car (or did I leave them at home?) or don't give a flip who cares what we look like.
I feel a Family oriented Naturist Resort would be the ideal start. That is how my wife and I started in a public area. They are usually gated, well protected, and a great place for couples like you to venture into for starters, especially when one of the couples, in this case, your wife, is not a beach fanatic. We are not either. We do like going to the beaches, but we are more mountain and woods type.
But I am sure we would change our minds about the beaches if we go to a place where clothing is not needed or especially not wanted!
Therefore, we give you this blessing:
"Live Nude and Prosper"
I'm female so I can't speak from a man's point of view. From my own experiences, I can say it's just as easy for me to get turned on by guys wearing military uniforms, especially the Marines' formal dress suits. I'm attracted to men in expensive suits, too. I'm strangely attracted to bad boys with white t-shirts, blue jeans, and tattoos on their arms. I live in this world and cute guys are every where, not just at nude beaches. I found the solution in prayer. I see a cute guy and--instead of staring and going, "Oh, wow!"--I pray for him and his salvation. I pray for the love of Christ to reach his heart, etc. You can't lust for someone when you're praying for them to know the love of God. By way of spiritual warfare; I'll repent of lusting, I'll bind the spirit of lust in the name of Jesus Christ, and then I'll loose the Holy Spirit of Love and Truth to work in me and whatever guy I'm finding myself lusting after. Waging spiritual warfare via prayer is a great distraction from the situation and gives you a great deal of self-control.
