Hello,
I posted here a little while ago about struggles with pornography. Boyd encouraged me to post my God given successes here. So, here's an update. I went to a nude swim about a month and a half ago. That was my first experience in a social setting other than a beach. So, it was nice to actually talk to people and be my social self. I have also not seen any porn in like two months or so. My thought has become a lot cleaner lately and I am also going out on a date with a girl soon - don't think much will come out of it, but then again, only God knows. I can only thank God for this progress from shame to being confident enough to ask a girl out.

One more request for advice and prayere.... during the past several years, I have been helped by several Christian men with whom I have confided my struggles. So, one such friend of mine called me up the other day and left a message. Since I have moved away from his city, I haven't been in regular contact with him and the last time we spoke was over a year ago. Anyway, I feel led to talk to him about my entry into naturism. He is pretty conservative and I am sure he will have a hard time digesting it, but I have never been half truthful to him - always confided the whole shabang. So, please pray that I express things wisely. If you have any advice on these things, I will be glad to hear them out.


Hope you guys have a great weekend.

Cheers,
Jerry.

Hey Jerry,
Welcome back and thanks for the update.

Glad you took the plunge. I hope it continues to help you, but keep in mind, that you must "change the way you think" and that comes from the Lord. Don't let a setback knock you down flat. Just remember, A setback is a setup for a comeback. (That is a title of a book)

As for dating a girl, don't worry about where it will lead. Just be a friend. Go out and have a good time, just live life and enjoy it. I know I had to learn that the hard way, but when I got my mind to settle on going out to have fun and not worry about a "relationship", then I ended up marrying her.

As for your friend, only you know what he may or may not do. If you do decide to tell him about your naturism, DO NOT tell him in a "confessional" way. You will sound guilty. Since he has not heard from you in a while, you will want to reestablish the connection and give it a few calls. It will also give you more time to think about what you will say. I almost confided in a couple of friends only to find out that later, they turned against our church. They were using me and my wife to help them take over our congregation to their way of thinking. When we discovered their plot, we didn't let them use us and they ended up turning against us as well. I am so glad I didn't tell them.

But I am sure you have a different relationship in this case. So again, only you really know what your friend is like. Again, keep it positive, not a "confessional" but a "discovery" of your self that helps you go forward.

Keep us updated, and again, welcome back.

Boyd