Thank you Boyd for your continued prayers. I can say that I am or we are feeling and seeing the results. When my wife started hounding me about anything she perceived as offensive and began doing things that so co-dependency on her part (I did my share too), I began to shut down. I quit sharing my feelings with her because she would just take it personal and use it against me. Recently however, since you began praying, she started in on me again and instead of shut down, I engaged her and we actually, by the grace of God, resolved some issues. The Holy Spirit was guiding me through it and I was amazed. I changed. She changed too, although not right that second. So thank you for praying. It's working!
And yes, our feelings about nudism aren't really about nudism but deeper issues and when the deeper issues are resolved, we will be able to handle nudism better. In my case, I loved it so much I was ready to move to the resort and centered my life around it. I think God didn't want that to be a focus, not to that extent. In her case, the opposite extreme. She wanted nothing to do with it at all and felt it was always inappropriate. It seems, as we work through the deeper issues, we are more balanced altogether.
I would like to be nude again more, including online -- through chats with you and others, etc. I would love to be able to put a nude picture as my profile picture the way you have done. I would do it too, if it were not for my wife and maybe I were not concerned about non-nudists seeing it and making something of it. But, yes, I do think we fear too much and people are more understanding than we realize. I know several at work talk about stripping down to underwear when they get home and the one supervisor who repeatedly references nudism. I am not ashamed or afraid to admit what I prefer, but with all I've been through, I have learned discretion is important. My wife, on the other hand, is deeply concerned about not being seen as bad and not being embarrassed. This is very important to her for some reason.
Boyd, I continue to pray for you and your family daily. I have you on my prayer list which I use to remember who has priority in prayer (I pray as the Spirit leads me so certain people will be prayed for more or less as He leads me and the ones on my list have priority).
Terry, you are right about the hypocrisy. I can't say much these days those as I have engaged in my share of it. I won't go into detail but I've compromised my ideals, mostly by letting myself bend to her rather than stand up for myself and my convictions. I claim nudism is good, healthy, etc, but then act as if it isn't.
I am trying to get back to my ideals.
Nudity in our home is actually not too big a deal. That is, while she would not simply go nude openly, if she happens to be seen naked by our sons, it's no big deal to her. They will walk into the bathroom to talk to her in a heartbeat. While she has refused to go to a nudist resort, she seems to becoming more relaxed and may one day change her mind.
As for me, my sons are used to seeing me naked and think nothing of it. When they were younger, I was always nude around the house, so they don't think anything of it. In fact, when my oldest son was around 8 or so, he once brought a female friend over and didn't bother to tell her I might be naked or bother to announce to me that he had brought her into the house. There I was, completely naked. They walked in and both talked to me as if I were completely dressed. I was surprised she didn't say anything. I later called her mother to explain what had happened to insure nothing was said and misconstrued or misunderstood. She learned that day that I was a nudist and she especially appreciated my forthrightness and honesty. She explained that her daughter did mention she'd seen me naked but only as a matter of fact and not as thought any wrong had been done so she was not concerned.
She learned I was a nudist and we became good friends. Our families have since skinny-dipped together as she and her husband both like being nude too. In fact, the whole family actually likes it. Her three daughters are grown now, just as our three sons are. When all the kids were younger, they loved playing on the slip and slide naked. They discovered they could go much fast that way. LOL They still talk about that from time to time. Just this weekend, I dropped my wife off at their house and when I went in, the youngest leaned out of her bedroom doorway and said, "Hey dad!" We've become like family, so she calls me dad as a joke. As I went to go see her, she smiled and said, "I don't have any pants on." Because of her obesity and the way she stood, I didn't notice it until she said something. Then I realized that apparently she had nothing on below. I laughed. I said, "So? I don't have underwear on." LOL We laughed. We talked briefly and she went her way and I went mine.
So I won't be surprised if my wife actually eventually comes around. It looks promising.