Here is my situation. I am revealing this in order that perhaps my wife can also enjoy social nudity. I grew up in a household that had pornography readily available, so from an early age I was exposed. It has followed me most of my life. I have also always enjoyed being naked,skinny dipping,etc. I came to find Naturism my a joke. My wife and some friends always said that if there was such a thing as Christian nudists I could be one. So one day for a joke I began to look on the net, and there they were, Christian nudists. However, it does not end there. I misused the sites, my early exposure to pornography had affected me seeing even pure wholesome nudity. I eventually got into some bad stuff on the net, and this came out and hurt my wife deeply. I still have a desire for social nudism, and have read extensively on the subject. I feel that I am finally free from from the porn aspect. I can finally see wholesome nudity and I am not aroused, nor desire to see something more. I have really had a freeing experience. But, now what about my wife. She had a hard time with socal nudism. She just does not believe people can socialize nude and there not be perversion, and she fears that she will end up on the net, or if we took out son that he would end up on the net. She just will not believe that it can be pure. She also has made the comment about why would I want another man to see here naked. Her intimate areas were meant only for me. I am at a loss. I have tried to explain as best as I could, and she will not read anything. She read two or three articles, and that was it. Any suggestions are very appreciated. Please feel free to email me.


Eliot

And I'm afraid the answer will not be easy.
First of all, it seems you have repented of the way you lived before. I hope that Jesus Christ will continue leading you and your wife to Him. He promised that he will finish the job he started.

You both need to go through a healing period. You have come to a resolution about naturism and the human body. I am glad for you. But you now need to be patient (I know thats hard) and spend a lot of healing time with your wife. You both saw what Satan can do to a relationship and to anything God has created good. Satan can distort anything, even the truth.

I hope others will help you with this as well. But I would not push it at this point. Your good example at home, spending time with your wife and doing things she would appreciate doing. Eventually, if your patient and show your true desires toward God and His plan, then she may one day come to you and say, "Let's go to that naturist resort!"

My wife was not ready either. I had almost blew it one time when she asked me not to venture outside in the nude. Well, I did. And to make matters worse, I did it in a sneaky way, when I told her that I wouldn't do it. I was wrong. She said that if this is what naturism is about, then I don't want any part of it. I told her that it was not naturism but me. I was the selfish one and I was the one in the wrong. Naturism is not about sneaking around on your mate, or about hurting relationships.

This means that you may have to forego naturism at a public venue. She may be fine with it at home (my wife was fine at home) but a "willing sacrifice" may be needed on your part until a recognciliation has been made.

In the mean time, do you get the Fig Leaf Forum (by John Kundert)? If so, I will have a new article in it coming out this next issue. It will be on "Praying Christians to Naturism", based on "Praying your neighbor to Christ" campaign which I'm a part of. Please read it. It will also be added as a new page to my website soon. In fact, I better get busy and start editing it for a web page!

Boyd Allen
PS. My wife really likes naturism today and has no problem with me being nude as much as possible, including in my yard!

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