Correct me if I got that wrong: if you want to get into a cabal, you have to play your char from lvl 1 (ONE) like you're the member of that cabal (or something like this). That means: if you use potions from lvl 5 to lvl 15, and after that you decide you want to be a warlord and stop use potions, you will not be accepted.
In your present message you clearly state that before lvl 25 (approximately) you didn't play your char following the warlord code. So you shouldn't have been accepted in the warlords with this char.
As a proof of this (that you shouldn' have been accepted anyway), I consider your statement that you deleted your char as soon as you heard Grayyg was becoming the leader (although I don't quite believe that, but, if you say so). I mean, is that behaviour a description of a true warlord? You hear that a guy you don't like is being appointed for leader, and instead of proving in the field he's wrong, proving you're a better warlord in the battle, you go here on this forum and whine about that. Well, I wish you the best of luck with that kind of mentality (you're gonna need it).
And just one last point: I dueled with you wih another char (a dwarf berserker). Basically, I was underequipped, and you were harassing me with your wish to duel, saying that you'll kill me and take all my stuff if I don't accept. You won, of course, scoring another victory in your mighty record.