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struggling so hard with this
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hello everyone,
my name is mary. i don't need to say, apparently, that this has been life altering.
during an emergency c-section, it was discovered my uterus ruptured. my son had initial oxygen deprivation symptoms, (posturing) and went to the NICU, but by the grace of God he is fine. in the O.R., when my uterus was sitting on my chest after the surgeon repaired it, he took my husband outside in the hall and told him he thought i should get a tubal because future pregnancies would be life threatening. my midwife agreed. my husband was terrified i was going to die because of the way the surgeon presented this to him. my husband consented to have my tubes tied, only because he was near hysteria with fear and worry. he was in no condition to give proper consent. the surgeon even asked me. it was all a fog and i remember nothing but shadows in the room and my husband sobbing. but apparently, i gave consent. i am roman catholic and against all forms of birth control. my midwife knew this.
i was taking prozac prior to the surgery and have doubled it since. physical symptoms are similar to the ones i've seen described. i have thought i was pregnant. there was a question of whether both my tubes were actually cut, the pathology report showed no fallopian tube for what was supposed to be my right tube. i have been hoping i was pregnant. i see now that i am not.
i have a gyno appt in two weeks with a new doc. i am discouraged already. i have been on dr. hufnagel's website and was seriouly considering FRS. if this will help me, i want to do it. i am near despondancy, but am trying to keep it together. but i am a sick sick woman. i am 37 and feel like an old woman. my health is destroyed. i am debilitated by the side effects of the tubal. should i get (natural) HRT? (bioidenticals)
will this give me my life back?
p.s., at this moment there are four people reading a letter my mother sent regarding this situation. she addressed the letter to the archbishop of hartford (CT) with "copies" sent to my surgeon, my midwife and the chief of staff at the hospital. the letter will enrage my surgeon and probably my midwife. i refuse to let this go unnoticed. my mom and i are hoping this stirs up a hornet's nest and wakes people up to the atrocity of tubals, particularly under the circumstances i described. this was done against my will. my mom is a strong woman and is furious at this whole thing. she's such a support for me. all of which is good, but i want to feel healthy again.
i did confront my midwife and my surgeon. my midwife told me, in a nutshell, that the tubal was unneccessary and they made a mistake. that it was a heat of the moment decision because of the seriousness of my condition. it was a very emotional meeting. my surgeon would take no responsibility. he told me at one point that he was being gracious in the face of my (what he obviously perceived as impertinant) questions and that he could have thrown me out of his office twenty minutes ago. i did have hormone tests. i basically demanded it from my GP (the surgeon was on vacation). my surgeon told me the results were normal. i don't think the test done was anywhere near complete and proper testing.
thanks for reading this extremely long post.
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