My W came to me and said that she would like for us to renew our vows. I was really touched and thought it shows that she really wants to start over and create a point from were she can say, "From this date, I have been faithful to my husband and am a good wife and have to true to my vows". We already replaced our wedding rings, but I think this would have a lot of meaning for us both. Has anyone else done the same thing?

Hart,

I think that there are many couples who do renew their vows...and do the renewal at a time they are in a good place in their healing..

The renewal is a positive step and also a big healing step...new start...clean slate.

Plan a special place, write your own vows , and I will say discuss NOW... that following the renewal you may still want to discuss the A and she will need to be open to that...

go for it and be happy.

Pat

"Time is precious, but truth is more precious than time."

I agree that it seems fairly common. My wife and I didn't have a ceremony, but we quietly and privately renewed vows while we attended a wedding, just a couple months after D-day.

I think it's a good idea to do this at some point in recovery, especially if you believe your spouse is fully committed to reconcilation, not only in words, but in they way deal with the difficulties of working on themselves and the relationship. It can give both spouses a reassurance that there is commitment from their partner to work through this.

TomJ

I thought we were at that pooint when DDAy #4 hit. We talked about renewing our vows. H even picked out a new ring for me. I guess he still is in the fog. It sounds so beautiful to have a fresh start. Maybe even more meaningful then the first time they were said. no longer blinded by romantic love we are truly choosing this person- with their faults and all.

That is so wonderful that she brought it up. I really would like to re-new but I want him to come up with the idea. Soooo that will probably won't happen. I think it's great. Do it and make it special. your own vowes. your own spin on the seromny(sp)
God Bless