I recently had lunch with a friend who's daughter is thinking about asking her H to leave...leading to a divorce.
The daughter is struggling with the WHEN, WHERE, and HOW to ask her H to leave.

As we discussed this issue, I thought about some of our members who have been thru this and others who may be considering separation or are going thru this right now. I hope that you might post some ideas that are important issues that you would do .. and those things you didn't do but wish you had done ...and suggestions of things that helped you thru the transition.

How do you tell the S you want him/her out of the house?

thank you,

Pat








"Time is precious, but truth is more precious than time."

This is really a case sensitive issue. It really all depends on the reasons.

As far as when... well there is no time like the present. The longer I put mine off, the harder it got.

How? The thing is with this question is there isn't really a nice way to do it. I personally packed my Hs things, put them in the back of his truck and dropped his truck off at his girlfriends house. It was pretty self explanatory from there. We never even really talked about it, which in most cases I think would preferable. But thing about asking them to move out, is that it's a boundary and we all know how hard those are to set. I would try and keep the conversation pretty cut and dry. If she really wants to stick to it, the less they talk about it the more she is apt to stick to that boundary. Assuming he want to stay, that is.

Some of my friends and sisters have given "notice". Given the person so much time to find their own place etc. But I know that that grace period was very taxing for those that have chosen that route.

I am sorry your friends daughter finds herself in this predicament. I hope she finds her way.

Hugs

Peanut

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