i just wanted to fill you all in you know how i was so concerned with making sure our home was intake and beautiful/ well when i left chat i thought h was on his way home. but he wasn't. so I called him no- no answer- called again -no answer. Again five more times no answer. Now I'm shaking I know you have all been here the thoughts racing threw your heads, uncontrolable shaking scared to death wondering how you can make it stop. Well he finally answered "Drunk" Oh but it's ok he was at work. I said once you started drinking you were no longer at work but now at play. I asked why he didn't answer my calls. and he came back with why when i call you you don't answer. I said I am at home being a mom you are at work playing around no comparison. and then after a heated battle i threw out I'M PISSED OFF BECAUSE MY H F'IN CHEATED ON ME. Door slammed from him in the bathroom (i'm sure doing the appropriate amount of lines to make it all go away) and here I am wondering once again WTF

(((((((((laura))))))))

I am sorry he is once again acting like an a$$. But Laura, you stood up for yourself. Good for you!

~ CAL
"You, yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection" ~ Buddha

Personally I would tell him that you have never given him a reason to question what you are doing if you haven't answered his calls.  He has betrayed your trust and is cheating on you with both A's, addiction and OW.

Stay strong Girl!