Ok I just have to let this out! That commercial Dimonds are forever when the h hides a neckles and retrieves it in the middle of the night only to place it upon his wifes neck. Who does that does it really ever happen or is that just for show. Cuz it captivates me everytime thriving for my h to do something special for me like that. I must still be in fantasy land. And a white horse will apear with prince charming, yada yada yada.
Honestly just once I would love if my h would go out of his way just to think about me like that. Silly thought since my h hasn't remembered my birthday for EVER. Just talking out loud.
This message has been edited by sweetgrace on Oct 28, 2007 9:33 PM
My exH did something similar to that on the evening of our first anniversary and look where that got our marriage. I can attest.......diamonds aren't forever!
It still happens. My H still surprises me with things. I have also seen that commercial and I love that necklace. I would love my H to get me that just because of what it means. A Journey Of Love....It is funny because my daughter and I were out shopping a couple weekends ago and I showed it to her and she said why don't you tell dad you want it. I guess I should because what I have learned from all of this is that they can't read your mind. It would be nice for him to get it without me knowing but in reality that won't happen-at least I don't think it will-now anyway.
We have a son going off to college next year. If only we had lots of money! Jewerly is that last thing we are thinking of.
Well, you know your DAUGHTER could tell your H, and he could surprise you with a pretty necklace that has ONE diamond in it. That wouldn't cost as much, and you would still love the surprise.
During the seven years of his infidelities, H did lots of things like that - lavish presents, hiding them in funny places, surprise presents for no reason, flowers with love notes, romantic gestures (when he wasn't screaming at me in a drunken rage).
Today, all those presents are suspect- were they bribes? coming from guilt? He says no, that they were sincere. Ha - at the time, I don't think he knew the meaning of that word. I feel that he was playing me like he was playing his OW - giving things so that he would be admired and loved. Today, I know that actions and honesty speak so much louder than presents.
So, from my perspective, don't look for diamonds when you are sleeping- look for a remorseful H who treats you with love and respect when you are awake.
This message has been edited by selfesteemseeker on Oct 29, 2007 11:56 AM
El, good for you - you deserve to be treated well, most of all by yourself.
My problem was the opposite - during the "dark years," when I felt so abandonned and rejected, I bought myself tons and tons of things -trying desparately to fill that void. I have tons of clothes that I don't need and now, do not even want.
I have learned that the big hole cannot be filled by things or by H - I need to do it and it is a big job that I have just begun to work on. I am glad I got the wake-up call to do it but so wish I had woken up 25 years ago. Still, better late than never.
