Thank you to all of those who left me your thoughts, warm wishes, and prayers.
The news yesterday was a shock to our family. We were thinking and wishing for recovery by means of chemo, radiation or surgery.
We were shocked beyond words when we were told My mom only has a few weeks to few months to live, that her cancer is uncurable. She doesn't know the latter part yet. We will tell her after she meet's with the oncologist Thursday.
I am all over the place here in thought/feeling. In disbelief. Sad beyond words and scared for her and my dad. I simply don't know how to tell my eldest son, who fears death and adores his grandma.
I am so sorry. I know we all had hopes, just as you did, that your mother's prognosis wouldn't be too bad. I know this was a tremendous shock to you. No words of wisdom, just a lot of hugs and warm thoughts.
I am so sorry to hear your news. We have just recently lost my mother-in-law just when we thought she was improving to be moved off of hospice she passed away from years of suffering. My heart goes out to you.
Take one day at a time and love her as much as you can.
I am so very sorry for the sad news. Your family will be in my thoughts and prayers. How very sad for your son, who adores his grandma. With 3 kids that are also very attached to their grandma, I can't imagine how hard it will be to tell him.
I know this is a hard time for you and your family. My heart truly aches for you. If there is a blessing in all of this it is perhaps the opportunity to get to say goodbye to your mom and to make the remaining time with her memorable, special, and loving. I will be praying for you and your family. May God cradle you in the palm of his hand and offer you courage and strength and comfort.
Jane, what a wonderful sentiment and so very wise. I, too, am sorry to hear of your Mom's prognosis. ((Lmw)) I know its hard to look at her illness and her remaining time as a "gift", but really none of us know how long we have. It would do us all well to really appreciate and truly love those around us.
I'm wondering how your mom took the news of having cancer (even though she doesn't yet know the terminal nature of it). What was her reaction? Who was there to support her during this conversation?
I'm also wondering, too, how many siblings you have? How big is her circle of love and support that will help guide her through this? Are you close with your siblings and can you work together to get your mom through this and to help each other? Have you had an opportunity to talk with your mom and ask what she wants/needs?
Again, I'm so very sorry about this newest heartache. Your family is in my thoughts. BlueIris
"We cannot wait for the storm to pass; we must learn to walk in the rain."
IM very sorry for all of your pain you and your mother and family are going through. may your mother find some comfort in this very difficult time. my thoughts are with you...
I'm so sorry LMW....I truly am.
What a shock to you and your family.
I pray that a sense of peace and understanding envelopes your family and that you can make the time she has left wonderful for all of you.
You are in our thoughts and prayers
Denise
"Our lives begin to end when we become silent about things"
It's a shock, no doubt. My Dad died of colon cancer. My heart goes out to you and your family. Take pleasure from knowing that you have time to say the things you want to say, and appreciate your mom while she is still with you. And remember, NO prognosis is 100% accurate - your mom may well only have weeks or months left, or she may still be around for years... It happens all the time; the human body and will is an astounding and sometimes unpredictable thing.
My thoughts and prayers are with you at this most difficult time. My Mom (also my Best Friend) passed away from adenosarcoma almost 20 years ago. I traveled home from Oregon and spent 6 weeks with her and my Dad as it was her wish to be at home. Although it was very difficult it was also a very special time for me and I consider myself blessed to have been able to those presious last weeks with her.
My heart goes out to you and your family. I hope that you all will be able find the strength to take this opportunity to celebrate her remaining life with her.
I'm so sorry you got such sad news about your MOM. It's so hard to comprehend and accept. Just try to be there for her and be easy on yourself as you go through the next months or weeks. Ask for help from your loved ones or even just friends and aquaintances ... people can be so comforting if you let them be.
Take care of yourself and I pray your Mom will go through this time as pain free as possible. This is the time to ask those questions or say those things you've always put off. Appreciate every moment with her.
Whenever possible, spend time talking to your mother. (I was very grateful to have several nights at the hospital with my father before he died; we talked for hours. It was very special to me.)
Thank you for reviving this posting, Pat. My life has been in such a family turmoil, I hadn't seen it.
LMV, I am so sorry about your family's sad news. It's the hardest thing on earth to say goodbye to a loved one, but it's worse to never have gotten the opportunity to say your love and peace before losing them.
I wish you strength and love during this very difficult time.
JJ
Peace is not just the absence of war; it's an exercise in compassion. -Dalai Lama
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