1. Alcoholic brother comes to live with my H and me.
2. I catch H cheating - D-Day 3 in two years. Kick him out.
3. Reconcile with H; this time N/C, etc.
4. Daughter has miscarriage.
5. My Dad has heart surgery.
6. I retire from teaching.
7. Alcoholic brother lying, drinking after rehab. Asked to leave.
8. We sell home of 25 years, and move out of state.
9. My other two brothers refuse to speak with me because I brought desitute brother from California to East Coast.
10. Father has open heart surgery, suffers stroke.
11. After 10 weeks in ICU, Dad succumbs to cardiac arrest early this morning.
12. I write my Dad's obituary this morning.


Yes, I am still sane. It's been a roller coaster of a year. Thanks to all here at HH who have made a difficult year one that's easier to understand and cope with.

Happy Holidays. May you all find the peace and happiness you deserve.

JJ

Dearest JJ (((((((((((((((hugs))))))))))))))))))

I am so sorry to hear about your dad's passing. No matter how much warning, deterioration, illness, etc there is, there is nothing that truly prepares one for losing a parent.

I wish there was more I could do than to offer condolences to you. After reading your list, I am amazed at how many truly life-altering events have happened to you just within this calendar year. You have walked an incredible path in close to 365 days. I hear strength, accomplishment...and somewhere within there...inner peace. Maybe from finding yourself along the way?

In the meantime, be kind to yourself and let your H help be a place of refuge. May 2008 give you greater peace and a quieter and happier walk. Much love, BlueIris

"We cannot wait for the storm to pass; we must learn to walk in the rain."

((((JJ))))

My condolances and sympathy during this time.  I have no words to make it better or easier.  Just hugs.

Chris

with you ((JJ))

(((((((( JJ )))))))
My prayers are with you for a more peaceful and happier 2008...I am so sorry to hear about your Dad..
Love
Lisa

I will keep you and your family in my prayers.

Please accept my wishes for a better year.

((((JJ)))

You and your family are in my prayers. Its been a tough year. So sorry another sad event to have to cope with.

PEACE

JL

OH JJ

I am so sorry...I know the loss of a parent ...lost my dad 12 yrs ago and my mother a month ago.

You are in my prayers.

(((hugs)))
Pat




"Time is precious, but truth is more precious than time."

((((((((((JJ)))))))))))))))...I am so sorry. I am praying that 2008 will be a better year for you. Again, I am so sorry.

~ CAL
"You, yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection" ~ Buddha

(((JJ)))

I don't know what to say.

You have my deepest sympathies

Ami

JJ:

You have my sincerest condolences. I'm sorry that your father spent 10 weeks in ICU with the stroke. I hope he was at peace in the end.

TomJ

Dear JJ,
You know how much I have always admired your strength and refusal to be reduced or defeated. Those qualities have been so tested this year but I believe that have stayed intact. You are a heroine to me.
I hope that next year brings you as much joy as this year has brought pain.

Such sad news on the boards. I wish you peace and strength as well.

Peanut

Peanut

We help ourselves when we help others

JJ - I am sorry about your father's death. My father died in similar circumstances years ago - it was sad and difficult. The only thing that help was knowing that the sadness also told me how much he had meant in my life - all the best, MM

JJ--

Please accept my most heartfelt condolences.

I am so sorry to hear of your dad's passing.

Next year HAS to be better, right?

You remain in my thoughts and prayers at this most difficult time.

Take care and God bless.

Len

I'm just taking the time to read this thread now and wanted to express my condolences. This is a very difficult time and I'm sorry you have to go through it.

Kid

I'm just getting around to reading this and I am so sorry to hear about your dad.

So many people here care about you and hope that we can somehow wrap our arms around your heart and take some of the pain away.

You are in my thoughts.
Laura

I'm just getting around to reading this and I am so sorry to hear about your dad.

So many people here care about you and hope that we can somehow wrap our arms around your heart and take some of the pain away.

You are in my thoughts.
Laura

I too am sorry to hear. My thoughts are with both you and Kid.

(((hugs)))
jetta

Thank you all, friends at HH. I am now back home in Iowa after having given my final farewell to my dad on a snowy Jersey day.

Whew. Sigh.

Time to start truly looking forward and leave the baggage behind.

“Peace is not something you wish for; It's something you make, Something you do, Something you are, And something you give away.”

May you each have peace in your lives.