I don't post much but I wanted to share with you all, that close friends of ours are separating because of an affair. The BH is devastated. They may try to work things out. I am the BS and I told my H that I discussed what happened between us with the BH and he said good.(I thought he might be upset) And if the WS wants to talk to him, he knows and has learned alot. Maybe he can help her see how many people are affected by your decisions. He said he would talk with the BH also and reassure him it is all about her, her selfishness and bad choices.

What a break through!!! we talked about what we went through and how much we've grown and worked hard to get where we are today. Took a long time and a lot of work but it is really worth it.

"that which doesn't kill is makes us stronger"

Have a great day!



Tammy10

Tammy,

So Good to see you again.
Glad your friends had you and your H...you are a positive roll model for them that you can get thru this mess and get to the other side.

Now a note of caution ...
Please be aware that you can get all caught up in friends problems.. just remember to take a step back and don't let friends problems affect your life..as they muddle thru their marriage.

((((hugs)))

Pat

"Time is precious, but truth is more precious than time."

Congratulations! It sounds like you and your H have a strong relationship and have built it back up out of the rubble.

I hope you are able to help these friends find the path to healing. It is good they have somebody to talk to that has been there.

Kid

Pat,

You are absolutely correct. I have to be careful. We just put it out there that if either wanted to talk, we could listen and at least understand.

My H did a lot of hard work to earn my trust and it took a long time for me to give it to him. I am going on a trip to Barcelona Spain for work and a collegue and I have taken 2 extra days to see the sights. Several years ago, I would have not even considered going.



Tammy10

Good to see you Tammy and glad that your situation is so much better now. It's always good to hear another good outcome from so much hard work.

-Susan