Well I am doing something total foreign to me. I am flying from Tbay to Ottawa (4 hour flight) for a job interview.
I've never left the city I live in, even for university. I'm a nervous wreck and I'm stressed to the max. Am I ready for a move this drastic??? I'm scared of not getting the job, and I'm scared of getting it and having to make a decision lol.
But the show must go on and my plane leaves in 2 hours.....
As my trainer says....if you never doing anything different you will never have anything different.
Oh, way to go Kim!! I'll be praying that your interview goes fabulous and that it's a fresh start for you. After all you've been through, you deserve it!
Sister!!!!!!!!!!!!
Oh Kimmie - you go for it darlin'!
I have my fingers crossed and you darn well better email me or post here after the interview!
This is a GOOD thing!!!
I am so excited for you! I don't need to wish you good luck, you are so marvelous they would be foolish not to take you! Another reason for me to admire you Big peanut hugs.
I know it isn't going to be easy to decide whether to take this job or not but it can be and adventure. You said that you have always lived where you do now your whole life, by starting over in a new city, you won't have some memories of your ex-husband's affairs surrounding you. I'm sure that there are places or people or such that remind you and trigger you constantly by living in the same city that you have. A new city will be adventurous and fun to explore. I know it will be scary too, as I have grown up all over the place and meeting new friends and finding where the grocery store is is daunting. However, you are STRONG, BRAVE and FEARLESS, I have faith that you can do this.
After your interview, sit down and think on the pros and cons of this job/moving. Is this job going to be paying more? Is it going to challenge you in your career? Is it doing something totally new? These are some questions to think about.
I am sure you will do fantastic on the job interview, you would be a great asset to any company.
As to the move... That is a biggy. (((HUGS))) you have to do what is best for you. Me, I don't have the guts. Moving out of the big city to the burbs was a major adjustment and my mother is still angry with me. LOL.
My father was career military, and between moving as a child and moving as an adult, I have lived everywhere from the NE US to the South to the Midwest, to Italy and France. I LOVE moving (OK now that I am an adult I hate the cleaning and packing part LOL) and having the opportunity to experience a new place, to meet new people, etc.
Life can be an exciting adventure. Don't let fear and timidity hold you back.
The interview went fairly well, now comes the waiting part.
Thanks everyone for your support, although the fearless Kim has to admit there are many things she still fears.
Thankfully Tbay offers no more affair triggers. It just doesn't affect me anymore. More so are the reminders of my dad everywhere. In one sense I'm scared that if I move some of the memories will fade, and on the other hand sometimes it would be good to not have to deal with them.
I'm exhausted to I must call it a night. 8 hours of airports and flying is too much in 2 days
No dear Kim, we love you because you face your fears and deal with them. My H once said about MY beloved father, he is a very brave man. I said " What my father is chicken $hit about EVERYTHING!" My H said that is exactly right, yet he does what ever he has to do to keep his family safe and deal with life's problems.
Ok.. gotta tell this story. I grew up in a bad neighborhood. Now, you really have to know my father but here goes. He would throw MUD on our OLD car every night just so the car would look LESS desirable and not be stolen. We couldn't believe it, no one would want that piece of garbage! Well, sure enough one night the car was stolen!!! Guess the thief was even poorer than we were!!!
Memories of my father.. there are many. His fear of everything is one of them, but his ability to see the importance of a job that needed to be done was a lesson I have learned well.
It is one of the many qualities I so admire in you dear Kim.
As for those memories of your beloved Dad, Kim they will never ever never fade. They will live forever in your heart. And each day my friend as you grow older, wiser and more loved it will be his love growing in you making you a better person.
I have spent most of my life following my H around the country for his career. Although each move was scarry in the respect that I would be facing different "cultures" and moving to a place where I knew no one, it was also a new adventure each time. I made new friends, learned new things, learned new "cultures". Although I stayed in the same country, trust me that the "culture" between the east coast, mid-west, west coast, etc. is very different.
You go girl, there is so much out there to see, to do, to learn.
Life is a journey and the next adventure is just around the bend. I have no doubts whatsoever that you are one to take on new adventures and revel in each one.
“Anyone can give up, it's the easiest thing in the world to do. But to hold it together when everyone else would understand if you fell apart, that's true strength.”
There is an old saying that change is good for us but what it will come down to, if you are offered the job, is what do you want to do???? I know you have the determination and skills to make the best of whatever you decide.
I thought Ottawa was a beautiful friendly city but was only there one day.
Well, I got the job!!!!!! They want me to start on Sept 2nd <insert OMG smiley here>
There are some finer details to work out such as who is paying for the move. They said they weren't prepared to pay for it, but then said that they didn't want to lose a good candidate over a trivial little issue like that.
So I guess i'm packing...........
My mind is just reeling, but its a bubbly giggly excitement so that must be a positive thing
I know someone who once asked for a stipend to cover the cost of the move, then did the move themself. You might do this, suggesting you'll split the cost. If you price moving by a commercial company it can be very expensive. However, if you can manage the move yourself, possibly paying for hired hands to come out and do the loading/unloading, it can be much more economical. You could even end up making a few bucks in the deal!
Hooray and congratulations! How exciting for you to move and start a new job in a new place. I am sure they company is delighted to have had you say yes.
They know quality when they see it!!! Kim we are so happy for you we are ALL doing that fairy dance!!!
Kim this is wonderful! This is the result of hard work and a wonderful loving personality! A can't miss combo!!!
So where will your new home be, in which part of Canada will you live? When do you start looking for a new home? Give us all the details! Oh and what colors will you paint!!!
I am so delighted dearest Kim. More good news for one of my favorite people!!!
At this point i have no idea where i will live or whether it will be an apartment, a house or on the street. lol
I'm still reeling.........scared to death but excited at the same time. What a feeling.
Oh and the interesting thing about this whole mess is that i've begun to see some of my friends for who they really are. You can tell by the reactions of some that they are selfish or jealous. The things we learn, the lessons ......
Having read your story since you first arrived, I read this post with joy.
Briefly, I worked in TB and it is a beautiful place - but the idea that you are spreading your wings and moving on is very empowering. A new city, new surroundings, new opportunities..
and it's not like you are running (running was my impulse) - but you are choosing to move on...
It will lead to a bigger city, better career opportunities and hopefully a larger choice in social circle (aka men lol)
Susan I had no idea you had ever been here. It is very small in relation to Ottawa, and the opportunites for a career are minimal. I have a good job, but I will have a better job in Ottawa.
Plus I have all you guys and that will never change!
OH my gosh.....I have tears in my eyes!!
This is WONDERFUL Kimmie!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I am so happy for you sister...I truly am so excited and happy for you!!!!!
This is a wonderful opportunity for you and a chance with a great job in a new place!
WOW!!!!
You rock!!!!!!!
(((((((Kimmie)))))
Congratulations, Kim! What a wonderful opportunity. Its amazing to look back at this thread and see what can happen in the span of just a month and a half. Good job on being brave, putting yourself out there and succeeding! (Let's pop some champagne!!!!) BlueIris
"We cannot wait for the storm to pass; we must learn to walk in the rain."
Listen to your trainer!!!
