Our son had a serious accident last Sunday evening. He was released from ICU Wednesday evening. However, we don't know how long he will be in the hospital. His injuries are extensive but all will heal with time. We are very lucky.
I come here because I am very upset. I have friends here. The next 3 to 6 months will be very rough for all of us at my home. At this time, H is doing very well. I'm just afraid of the depression that left him so vulnerable a few years ago.
I'm so sorry to hear about your son. I wish him a speedy recovery and pray that his injuries will heal without complications. My heart goes out to you and your husband. I hope that this incident won't cause him trouble in his healing process and that you will cling to each other for support and love.
I am sorry to hear about the accident. Your son is in my thoughts, I hope for a fast and speedy recovery. You and your family are also on my mind during this stressful time... (hugs you)
(((((((((((((((Amelisa))))))))))))))) I am so sorry to hear of your son's accident. I know this must be very hard on you. Please know that you, your son, and your entire family are in my thoughts and prayers. You have supported me through so much...you are such a kind and caring lady...
~ CAL
"You, yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection" ~ Buddha
My thoughts and prayers are with you and your son.
As your son continues his recovery.. your improved relationship with your H will help your H cope.. You are also aware of the signs of the depression so yours eyes are open and you are communicating... you are there for each other and there for your son.
Keep your focus on the "present". your H is doing well.. don't project the fear of the future..I know easy to say but so hard to do..just keep thinking a day at a time....
((((hugs))))
Pat
"Time is precious, but truth is more precious than time."
Dear Amelisa - I'm so sorry to hear about your son's accident. It sounds like it's been a terrifying time. I think Pat is right on with her thoughts and advice; you have learned so much and can get through this well together because of all you have learned. Be there for each other. You can do this. And we are, of course, here for you,too. With prayers for rapid recovery for your son and the strength for your whole family to come through this with unity and love. BlueIris
"We cannot wait for the storm to pass; we must learn to walk in the rain."
Today was very good. He probably won't need surgery on the broken vertebrae, just the back brace. He was actually able to stand with the assistance of the physical therapists. He's also able to sit up to a 30° angle in bed -- without the brace. This makes eating so much easier. Hopefully, he will be able to feed himself soon.
He may not need skin grafts after all. The arterial surgery can be postponed until the other injuries heal. We should find out tomorrow if he requires knee surgery.
Actually, this accident may heal the breach between my husband and son. They have been talking and apologizing to each other. My son has been extremely angry at my husband; he apologized last night for the way he has acted towards H.
All in all, we are very lucky. Thank you for the words of encouragement.
Thank you for the update on your son. I'm so glad to hear that it isn't as serious as first thought and that he won't have to endure the terrible surgery. I'm also happy to hear that he was able to stand a little and sit up in bed at an angle. The sooner he starts doing things, the better the prognosis will be and the less chances for permanent damage. I'm sorry that something terrible has had to happen to mend the rift between your husband and your son but sometimes things are a blessing in disguise. Hopefully both men have realized that this accident could have left the hard feelings between them permanently, as your son could have died and your husband would have been left with guilty feelings. I'm glad that they are finally resolving their issues.
I know my uncle and my dad had never been close throughout their lives, as my uncle was 7 years older. However, in recent years they mended their ways and it was good because four years ago, my uncle died the day after his 70th birthday. I know if my dad hadn't gotten a relationship with his older brother, that he would have regretted it for the rest of his life (as my uncle was his only sibling).
I hope the healing continues, both physically and emotionally and that this makes you and your husband stronger in your relationship as well.
So good to hear that your son is doing a bit better - and every bit counts.
"When one door closes another door opens; but we so often look so long and so regretfully upon the closed door, that we do not see the ones which open for us."
So often it's pain, guilt, or pride that doesn't allow us to look past that closed door. I'm glad your H and son are talking again - and are seeing a new "door" open for them.
Peace is not just the absence of war; it's an exercise in compassion. -Dalai Lama
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Hey, Amelisa. I saw your post on other thread this morning. So sweet of you to write when you've got so much on your plate. How is your son doing? How is your H doing? How are you doing? With much concern and wishes for continued improvement for all. BlueIris
"We cannot wait for the storm to pass; we must learn to walk in the rain."
Our son is healing extremely fast -- much sooner than his doctors expected.
Two of the surgeries we expected will not even be required. The other two surgeries can be postponed until he heals. These will be minor compared to the injuries he sustained. The ACL in his right knee will be repaired; the artery in his right arm is blocked and a bypass will be performed.
He is actually walking with a walker now. He should be transferring to a rehab hospital Monday.
The rift between my son and my husband seems to be mending now. My son detested H after the affair. Even though this accident was horrible, it has provided healing for both.
((((Amelisa)))) I am a firm believer in everything happens for a reason, even though we may not know exactly what that reason is. If healing between your H and your S can be derived from this tragic occurence, then IMHO the surviving the tragedy is a small price to pay.
You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.
“Anyone can give up, it's the easiest thing in the world to do. But to hold it together when everyone else would understand if you fell apart, that's true strength.”
That's terrific news, Amelisa!!! I'm so happy to hear what borders on miraculous healing....for both your son's physical injuries and for the emotional injuries that your son and H have been suffering through. I agree with, Chris; things do happen for a reason. I wish they weren't such scary, painful things that had to happen, but wow! What a silver lining. Hugs to you and your family. BlueIris
"We cannot wait for the storm to pass; we must learn to walk in the rain."
I am doing a Happy Fairy dance for your family! Yippee! Unlike the others, (sorry ladies no offense intended!) I do not subscribe to the "everything happens for a reason" philosophy; however, I do believe that we can learn a lesson from everything if we keep our minds and hearts open.
It seems like your son and H have theirs open. Yeah!
Reading that your son and husband are mending their damaged fence relationship made me have a teary face. I am so glad for your family and happy your son is doing well. You continue to be in my thoughts.
I am SOOOOOOO glad to hear that your son is doing much better than expected. I hope his healing continues to mend with speed and that he will be cleared to come home soon. I know that the emotional healing will take time but I think his mother will be able to help him in that area. I am also happy to hear that your son and husband have started mending their relationship and I hope that it continues, even after this is over. It sometimes takes a tragedy to make people realize what they could possibly lose if they don't reconcile. I'm glad that your husband is being supportive to your son when he really needs his dad the most.
Thank you for updating us on his status and best wishes to you and your family.
Hurray!!!!! What terrific news! I hope its followed by reports of faster than expected healing and progress. I'm hoping your H and son are continuing to do better, too? Thanks for sharing your good news. BlueIris
"We cannot wait for the storm to pass; we must learn to walk in the rain."
I am glad he is out of ICU and I hope he continues to improve. 
