We have a domestic open adoption with our DD's birthparents..Our DD just turned 1 and we have a 5 year old bio DS ..The birthparents relationship is on and off constantly and we are not positive that he is the bio father...(they did not test DNA and she reported another possibly father) Birthmom calls about once a month and we meet about every other month...Sometimes with birthdad or not...Birthmom also has a 8 year DD parented by her ex-husband. Recently she called and said birthdad was in jail on drug charges...Well now she called today and said that he has a 7 month old daughter with another woman in town that she recently learned about....I find myself wondering how to handle the extent of openness now that my daughter will shortly begin to identify us as her family. I feel I want to protect her from all this craziness.....I guess I'm also worried about the future--not that she won't be bonded to us but finding out all the drama down the line....Anyone have any thoughts...I guess I need to probably set up some strong boundaries with birthmom....It also secretly disgusts me that this birthdad has four kids with different mothers and isn't responsible for them......On the bright side, I have a beautiful daughter from all of this craziness....Hope I didn't complain too much, just confused Jennifer