We met the birth mother and she wants a letter and pictures twice a year that we send to the adoption agency and they send on to her. They called ours a semi open because we met her. Our adoption agency told us that if we didn't want to meet the birth parents at all, we would wait A LOT longer. If we are were willing to meet and send pictures, we would not wait long. We officially waited 70 days (after all the paperwork, homestudy, etc.) From our agency and talking to other adoptive parents, most birth moms want to meet you.