You are not sounding too harsh. I know its the truth. I want a child and I am running out of time. My Dh is a good man. HE just has some kind of bond with his ex. and his kids mean the world to him. I sometimes think because I am so strong and so independant. I got married at 34 and this is my first marriage. He feels they need him and his first responsibility is to the three of them and then to me. I guess I kind of blame myself for all this because my prior rleaitonship was the same thing but there was a good reason for him to be like that. I am married to this one. I feel in my heart I should come first!!!! TIme is running out and when you really think about it. ITs not a behavioral issue. ITs whats in his heart and how he feels. HOw does one change that. I dont know where my marriage is going to go but I know I dont want to live the rest of my life without a child of my own to raise and nutre. I know in my heat that i WILL BE A GOOD MOTHER..