What type of adoption are you pursuing / interested in?
Completed 3 domestic infant adoptions
Where are you in the process? (just starting out? home-study approved? waiting for a referral / to be matched? matched? etc.)
We are done !!!!! 3 is enough
Do you already have children?
My 3 through domestic adoption jeffrey 3 1/2, Lauren 22 months and Timothy 11 months
What have you found most difficult about this process?
two things
1) Getting Started !!! The whole thing seems so over whelming and so hard.
2) Giving up control. Out own version of labor happened during the 3 births. At the hospitla the birthmom calls the shots. She can see the baby when she wants adn you need to sit and smile. You need to be very politcally correct to express propoer love, affection and convern but give her the time with the baby that she deserves and needs.
What have you found to be the easiest?
3) Once we got started is was surprisingly easy. We completed adoptions in 3 years.
What has surprised you?
Our relationship with the birthmom. I know many of you may be afraid of contact but I think in the long run it will help my kids understand adoption. I have an active relationship with my sons birthmom ( same birthmom for both) We talk on the phone frequently. I have met the birthmom of my daughter and even brought my daugher to see her a few months ago but do hear from her regularly
What is your favorite book about adoption?
Adoption for Dummies, Reaching Out ( book about writing dear birthmother letters - www.dearbirthmotherletter.com