Interesting discussion thread on fear of openness in adoption...
by cyncie (no login)
Hi,
I know this is such a big concern for everyone who contemplates domestic adoption. It certainly was/is for my DH and me. Our concern is subsiding now that we are actually (preliminarily) matched and getting to know our birthmom (the scary fantasies are disappearing). Anyway, this is a link to another board. I hope it's OK if I post it here since this question has come up often. You can see that there are different degrees of openness depending on the family. I enjoyed reading the responses. As always they prove, there is no cooky cutter way to adopt domestically. Most of these lean towards openness but you have to evaluate every situation and do what's best for your family.