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DH reluctant to adopt, any thoughts? (drug addict BM ment)

by anon just now (no login)

 

i posted months ago about the potential of adopting a distant cousins baby (she is a drug addict). well, baby is about 5wks old now and doing well in foster care. no clue what will happen but i (of course) want her and DH is not so sure.

his issues are:

fear of BM showing up on doorstep all the time.
baby is bi-racial and we live in a white bread town (his main concern is that baby will face discrimination)

those are the main things.

remember that the baby is distant family so i am not sure how we would work a semi-open adoption.

there are many uncertainties here, too. i believe that parental rights will be terminated, eventually. actually, i wish that my cousin could kick the demon and parent, but it isn't looking good.

any body have any thoughts here?

TIA
AJN



Posted on May 5, 2008, 10:31 AM

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  1. Tough Decision. Jess, May 5, 2008, 5:02 PM
  2. Wish I had answers for you, but I wanted to at least wish you well.. Faith, May 6, 2008, 6:49 PM
  3. thanks jess and faith. anon just now, May 12, 2008, 5:49 PM
    1. Foster Care Supervisor. Jess, May 12, 2008, 9:18 PM
      1. thanks, jess, and..... fish_queen, May 24, 2008, 4:45 PM
  4. Have no advice but.... Christiane, May 14, 2008, 12:32 PM
    1. thanks C.. fish_queen, May 24, 2008, 4:46 PM
  5. somewhat similar situation.... , May 22, 2008, 9:55 PM
    1. hi stephanie, i posted to you on the pg board..... fish_queen, May 24, 2008, 4:43 PM

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