Hi, i am new to this forum and i have been reading posts for a few weeks now and finally have something to post. I have been studying martial arts for a year now and i love it, its so challiging and fun. Well anyways some people know i take martial arts and they want to "test" me out and i usually joke around and stuff and dont care what they do or say but theres one kid that gets on my nerves and he always annoys me and i let him and dont take it seriously. But yesterday he had the nerve to hit me in the face and without even realizing i hit him in the face hard and he got upset and turned around and i walked away, then he tried to sucker punch me but missed. I just stood there and looked at him, not scared but amazed. Then he does not talk to me for the rest of the day and today he acted like nothing happened.

I could of hurt him if i wanted but chose not to. How can i control myself and when do i know when i should fight, because i dont want to hurt anyone i just want them to stay out of my business.

thanks,

Jack

Remember, that if you truly wanted to hurt a person you could, but you must not. Have fun with your arts training. Those who test you are trying to throw you off your center, trying to make you feel as if all the time you spend training has not payed off. Teach people that it is not the training that they should test, they should test themselves, see if they could with stand 12 months of training and actually enjoy themselves. As for getting yourself frustrated with other peoples frustrations, try meditation. If meditation is not what you practice, release you anger in a positive way, at the gym or running. When you can look past others jelousy, and focus on the good, you will always be the better soul.

J

You should never fight, just defend. Only to a point of where you attacker is disabled of has retreated. You must never seek revenge on an attacker, only wish the knowlegde you have just given him will deture him from futher agression.

J

I know, things like this can be trying sometimes, but yes you should defend yourself with only the correct amount of force and only as a last resort!!!

My Advice is..

Next time your alone with this boy, talk to him about your martial arts (but not showing off).
Then ask him how about would he like to come and join in your training sesions or if not would he like to watch a training session at your school or dojo.

You can never really teach people with your fists and kicks. but when you show a person the truth of who you are and inturn that can change a person..

Instead of fighting, embrace him as a friend..

but remember to do this only when you and him are alone, as ego for a boy is a powerful thing.

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I've found that if you tell imature people that you train in Martial Arts, they seem to want to test your skills. I don't know why they do this, maybe it's because they want your attention to become friends. Or, they are just jerks. Either way, I don't tell people that I know martial arts untill I know them for awhile. Usually, when you tell someone right off the bat that you train to fight, they tell other people that know you and everyone knows, 1 person out of the 10 will want to test your skills. So, persoanlly, I don't tell people that I train in Martial Arts, if they ask how I got into shape, I tell them I go to the gym, which is the half truth.

Phases ®

Ghogd - Where do you see this person? In school? If it is in school, tell someone of authority that you are having problems with this individual, and tell them of your reluctancy about getting kicked out of school for having to possibly physically defend yourself. Tell this authority figure if they can keep an eye on him.

If it is on the street, avoid where you know this individual hangs out.

Since showng an interest in martial arts, some people in my college tend to ask quiestions like: "so, if I came at you like this, what could you do?" etc.
They are not really trying to threaten me, just make sure that I'm not a showoff!
I try not to respond, as my actual training has been extremely limited, and I don't want to just lamp someone out by accident!
All I can say is, that after studying areas of body machanics etc, and getting fitter, I am confident that I could defend myself better.
I have not had to put anything into practice yet, but there has been times when felt that it might be nessicary.
Anyhoo......
The fact that this person hit you shows a kind of fear on his part; he wants to prove that he's the man.
My advice is, tell him that you will not allow him to walk all over you,and that you would rather have him as a friend than an enemy.
If he tries it again, then do what you feel is nessicary to defend yourself, even if it means giving him something to put him off next time,(like a jab in the eye!).
Hope this helps.

I sympathise with your situation dude. I think it has happened to us all when we start. I think Phases has the right idea.

I used to talk about MA all the time to everyone, still want to know. However this inevitably brings trouble. Especially when you get older and start hanging around pubs or going to parties where alcohol is involed. Some creten always wants to try something.

Now I do not tell people straight off. I find something else to talk about. Even when people find out I brush it off. "I did a bit of MA, but I don't know anything" usually is a good stopper. The topic of conversation usually changes.

Most people are not really interested in MA, in fact most so called MA are not interested in MA just the kudos that goes with it. Better to be silent about what you do.

About the kid that troubles you. Report it first, this is your disclaimer. He tries it again knock him clean out. Similar happened to my brother. He was new to his school (soft compared to what he had come from). The school bully grabbed him by the neck and held him against the lockers. My Bro asked him three times to let go please. He of course did not, so in true Bro spirit he picked up the bully and threw him over the nearest table. You wanna take a guess how many people picked on him afterwards.

Question everything, Know nothing.

It's like if a hot girl told all the guys that she does amateur porn for extra money. Do you think the guys would say, "Oh, that's nice... have you seen the Movie T3?"... HELL NO! They would flirt with her and hope they can get some action from her.

So, Don't be a Slut and tell everyone what you do, cause some guy will try to flirt with danger.

I hope this doesn't down play my last post to this thread. ha! LoL


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