PG Despite High FSH Netiquette / Posting Rules

The moderator often receives emails and posts with concerns regarding anonymous or attacking posts... seeing as how our group is ever growing and there are lots of visitors from the other boards (who are always welcome), we wanted to provide some reassurance to everyone.

1. Follow the Golden Rule, which is found in every culture! When writing your messages, please use the same courtesy that you would show when speaking face-to-face with someone. Before you hit "post," think about how your message will affect someone else, especially if it is negative or controversial -- follow the golden rule! You may edit your own posts if you first log in with your free Network54 ID.

This forum is specifically for the benefit of women who have been through or still struggle with IF. Please remember this, whether you have passed that hurdle or not. We know all the feelings and problems of IF and all the hormonal swings. Some of us also deal with postpartum depression or regular depression. Some of us discover that our children have special needs, and all of us deal with the daily joys, worries and hassles of parenting, early childhood diseases and sleep deprivation. Please don't attack someone who posts a general vent. Women who never experienced IF complain all the time about the pains and pangs of pregnancy and parenting, and the rest of us have the same right to kvetch from time to time, too! IF has already stolen so much from us. Don't let it steal our basic human feelings, too.

Newbies, please feel free to join in when you are ready. Remember to tell us a little about yourselves, because this is the first time we are "meeting" you. Give us a chance to welcome you and get to know you.

2. Flames, insults, and personal attacks will not be tolerated. It's fine to disagree strongly with opinions, ideas, and facts, but always with respect for the other person. Telling someone that she is negative, selfish, etc. is not respectful and may result in the post or thread being deleted, at the discretion of the moderator and owner of this forum.

Additionally, posts regarding the illegal act of selling/offering free/accepting fertility drugs will be deleted and participants' IPs will be banned. An attempt to help one can jeopardize the help of the rest of the forum. How can one guarantee the true content of the medication? How can one guarantee that the recipient will receive proper monitoring? A serious reaction to fertility drugs may be rare, but as remote as that possibility is, we are not willing to have anything to do with it. Thank you for your understanding.

3. Great minds do not always think alike, and that's where the fun is!

4. Note that messages express the thoughts of the writers, not the board or its moderators.

5. We encourage a warm forum to discuss sensitive parenting and relationship issues among friends. We hope that your posts can be supportive to one another or, at the very least, informative. Please show this consideration toward the moderator as well. It should be fun for us, as well.

6. The N54 ttc boards, in general, prefer no anonymous posting. The PG Despite moderator recognizes and works with this expectation, rather than trying to change it. In the spirit of the N54 ttc boards, which are usually more supportive and encouraging than many other ttc boards we've seen, we strongly discourage the use of "Anonymous" posts, and remind everyone that you are in a special place where who you are carries your opinions a whole lot further. Please don't be afraid to use your name. In the event that you should see an anonymous post that you find slighting to the nature of the board, please do not respond to it; simply contact the moderators to direct their attention to it.

If an anonymous post appears and the moderator has time to screen it for content it might remain, but the moderator will take license to take appropriate action which may result in deletion of the post and up to and including banning of an IP address.

7. The moderator of this board do not wish to be heavy handed as we respect the right to free speech. However, we will step in when there are insulting or demeaning posts present on this board. Such posts will be deleted.

8. The moderator will also resist the temptation to mediate debates. Debates are healthy when constructive and presented with a free flow of thoughtful dialogue. We will only step in if things spiral downward. Please go to the chatroom or e-mail one another off the board if you feel the need to pursue a heated debate with another poster.

9. A user may be suspended or prevented from posting to the Playgroup discussion board as determined appropriate by the moderators in the case of severe or repeated abuse.

10. Have fun!! This is a great group of women who have so much to offer one another.